What is it you are afraid of?
What is it that stops you from achieving your goals?
Usually there are 3 main things that hold us back:
1 fear of failure
2 no time
3 lack of self-belief
Fear of failure – We all fail at things all the time. It’s how we learn. The challenge is when we thing we REALLY want something (or think that we do) there is that little voice in your head that says ‘what if you fuck it up?’ ‘what if people see you fail?’ ’what will people say/think?’
SO WHAT?? If you don’t make an attempt, you will never know. Maybe what you think you want isn’t for you and when you start working towards it you realise it’s not all it cracked up to be.
I always wanted to teach Body Pump, I went on the course, got out in front of classes to practice, sent in my DVD and failed (I struggle to hear the beat in the music and failed on that).
I tried again half-heartedly (and failed again). I knew I wasn’t very good and in actual fact what I had dreamed it to be the reality didn’t match.
I tried, I failed and moved on to do other things that I love and am gradually becoming more successful at.
No time – really?? You really have no time? How much of your day do you spend on social media? Watching TV? When you want something badly enough you make the time for it. Use a diary or online calendar, schedule your whole day from wake up to bed time and stick to it.
Get organised, use your time productively. Use your commute to work to learn, read, listen to podcasts, make lists, start your plan.
Take social media apps OFF your phone and use an app like Cold Turkey to block specific websites during specific hours of the day.
If you have nights out that write you off the next day, are they actually worth it? One thing I hated when I used to drink was how long it took me to recover, I hated that I lost a whole day feeling bad and sorry for myself and even the day after I wasn’t up to much. For me, my goals and dreams were more important than losing 2 days of my week to a night out that I couldn’t properly remember.
Lack of self-belief – We all have that, one thing I get my Warrior Women (http://freedomintraining.co.uk/warrior-woman-project/) to do is write one thing they are proud of every day. They have quickly built a list of things up that they now realise they do, when before they hadn’t even thought about what they did, they just did it and took for granted their skills.
You have to try things to work out where your strengths and weaknesses are. When you find your weakness, work out a way to use your strengths to improve that weakness. When we work on the weaknesses we strengthen everything, when we only work on our strengths we get stuck.
There will be many times that we doubt ourselves, we need to remember all those times before when we doubted and succeeded – that’s why keeping a journal of things you are proud of is so useful. All those little things make big things.
It’s not going to be easy, but it will be worth it (and reading Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway will give you a wee boost too)