Step Away From The Scales

You wake up, look in the mirror thinking I am starting to take some shape, waist looks like it’s getting smaller, clothes are fitting nicer… you feel good and are liking what you see staring back at you… THEN you get a genius idea to go and stand on the scales… just to see what the numbers say…

BAD IDEA!!

The number staring back at you is not what you expected / hoped / wished for…

How can that be right? 60 seconds ago you felt good, maybe even fabulous… and now… you feel like shit…

Believe me ladies, the scales f@#k with your happiness.

As a personal trainer I don’t obsess with numbers on a scale or even numbers on a tape.

If a client wants to track their numbers that is fine by me but I am more interested in how they feel, and one thing that de-motivates and squashes your happiness is ruling them by the numbers.

Yes, they can be an indication of you moving in the right or wrong direction over a longer time but week in week out even from the start of the day to the end the numbers fluctuate.

If standing on the scales dictates your mood, I suggest you ditch them or only stand on them once a month – it needs to be the exact same day every month within your cycle and at the exact same time when you have done the exact same things the few days before (including what you eat and volume of fluids).

How you feel about yourself when you look at yourself naked, how you feel in your clothes and how you feel day to day is a much better guide to how you are treating yourself.

If you feel down and bloated, chances are you have not been eating great and you need to get your shit together and start looking after yourself.

If you are happy, feel great in your clothes, have loads of energy (that doesn’t come from red bull or coffee) then you are doing something right so keep doing that.

We are all meant to be different shapes and sizes – it’s what makes us beautiful and individual.

Have a look at the pages of the bikini models and figure competitors in the weeks leading up to their photo shoots and competitions – they are generally not happy, they are stressed, they kid themselves on they are excited about eating a bowl of oats. They struggle, they cry, they have mood swings and some of them don’t even have periods any more…

Getting in to that kind of shape is not healthy, for most it’s not even safe for long term health.

If the athlete’s are your motivation, again you need to consider how much training they put in to be good at their job, for them it’s not how they look, it’s how they perform to be elite – that is a  full time job training 4+ hours a day…

If they are your motivation, think about what they put their bodies through to get there then decide if you would rather have some curves, lumps and bumps and a piece of cake…

Have a look at yourself again in the mirror (with your kit off)… What is it you really want? How do you want to look? What are you prepared to do to get there?

If bowls of oats and eating out of plastic containers on public transport is for you then knock yourself out. If getting up at 4am to train your ass off to compete is for you then get that alarm set…

Whatever it is you want or need, you have to be prepared to make the changes.

At the end of the day it is you that has to be happy but obsessing or letting numbers dictate your happiness is going to be a fail.

Jen x

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Wrong side of the bed?

When you wake up what is the first thought that crosses your mind?

‘oh no, here we go again’

‘what’s the weather like?’

‘yus, new day, can’t wait’

The first thoughts that go through your head are usually going to set your mood for the rest of the day.

I am lucky that when I get up 4 out of my 7 days it’s to go and teach my indoor cycling (spin) class and I have 16-20 maddies that all get up to join me for their morning class.

At that time in the morning I have been called the devil, smiling assassin and I can hear the swearing under their breath, but they get up for it, and I love delivering the class.

My point is though, when you wake up you want to be thinking about something that make you happy to put a smile on your wee face and have you looking forward to the day.

Sometimes your dreams will have an impact on how you feel when you first wake, if you are sad or distressed it is important to find a way to change that mood as quickly as possible. I find talking to people about them trying to work out the meaning helps because often the dreams don’t mean the literal sense they are delivered in.

If you can’t find anything to look forward to other than getting home to get back to bed I would seriously advise a career change or join Warrior Woman Project to get some direction and perspective (http://www.meetup.com/Warrior-Woman-Project-Weekly-Meet-Up/ ).

I talked to you about keeping a gratitude diary, 3 things every night before you go to sleep that were good that day. Finish the day on a positive note.

How is that going? Are you still keeping it up? Have you noticed any difference in your day? We were talking about looking for positives and proud moments in your day at Warrior Woman the other day and Sheila has noticed a positive difference about how she feels each day.

I find myself taking note of things through the day and actually looking for them so I can add them to my list at the end of the day, the same with my 1 new thing every day, getting a break from your daily routine shows you how much you actually do in a day so you don’t drift through life in that haze.

I am a pretty positive person anyway (to the point that I think some people get annoyed with my happiness and positivity but they can kiss my ass), but finding the good in things just makes the day go better.  Just for the record, not every day is a happy day, bad shit does happen, the difference is the bounce back and refusal to wallow in gloom.

When the day goes better I feel you less stressed. That is a GOOD thing not just for your mood, but for the people around you, for your waist line and for your sleep.

Have a happy day

Jen x