Stand Alone

Sometimes you have to do stuff on your own, even when you don’t want to.

Being self-employed can be a lonely gig at times, especially when there is no one around to bounce ideas off, have a giggle with, or get distracted by. There are times that I wish there was someone there to hold my hand and I question what the hell I am doing, BUT I look at all the stuff I get done, the difference I make and how far I have come on my own and feel mega proud of myself.

When you do achieve things on your own you get that wee buzz, the sense of satisfaction that you pulled the big girl pants on and this is all you… Yeah you need to high 5 yourself, but that is ok… You did it, you are strong, confident, and independent and you remember why you are doing it.

About a month ago I went to a wedding reception on my own and that was tough, I didn’t want to go alone but it was Nicole’s  40th birthdays and I had double booked myself – I really wanted to drop by Mic and Gemma’s wedding… They are a couple so in love and happy that I am inspired by and they give me hope so wanted to go and celebrate with them. I went along to see for an hour, I got to see them cut the cake and have their first dance. I didn’t really know anyone else there so stood at the bar drinking my water but feeling proud of myself and happy that I had done it.

I would have been annoyed with myself if I had chickened out of going.

When you are challenged, it can feel like an uphill struggle and brings up a lot of questions but pushing through, doing it anyway makes you thankful after. It just made you stronger. It just made you realise that you are capable of a lot more than you give yourself credit for.

Whether you are working towards a goal, running your own business, fighting for that dream, remember that these are all yours and only you alone will have the passion and determination to make it happen.

Be proud that sometimes standing alone is a good thing and you are always building character.

Jen x

 

It’s what Sunday’s are for…

For quite a while now on Sundays I have been trying to do different things with my day. I am expanding my culture and experiences to develop me as a person.

This weekend I was at the Body Type Nutrition Conference learning with a couple of friends.

I have been to the Art Galleries, the Transport Museum, Gallery of Modern Art, walked up Conic Hill, been climbing, to movies at the GFT… Some of them I have done with friends, some on my own.

How often do you do things outside of your normal routine?

Do you ever go off and do stuff on your own? Taking time out by yourself.

I love spending time alone. Pottering, writing, reading, people watching, thinking about things, thinking about nothing.

I totally believe that you NEED to be comfortable doing things on your own.

It’s even more than comfortable, but happy & content. There is nothing more freeing and empowering than liking your own company.

People have more respect for you when they see that you are independent, weirdly it makes people want to hang out with you more.

Why do people want to hang out with you more? Because you display good, strong values and they see that they can learn from you.

If you are someone who isn’t comfortable on their own, like as soon as you are left alone the first thing you do is grab your phone and start texting, checking Facebook/ twitter or reading your emails.

Learn to not do that.

Your challenge for this week, if its something you are not good at.

Be alone, no phone for comfort. Go somewhere, do something different.

Go to a museum, coffee shop (you can take a book to read, but don’t use social media if you have your kindle/ipad/tablet to read, it must be a book), go for a walk, go for dinner, go on a day trip (the city tour buses are always good).

Let me know what you are doing for your challenge.

Have a good week, and push yourself to do something outside your comfort zone.