A special gift

Day 8 Delegate, this is something I have learned to get better at.

Once you get the hang of it, getting others to do the stuff you don’t like doing or struggle to do is a gift from the time gods.

Things like ironing, I never iron, I don’t even own an ironing board, thankfully none of my clothes need ironed, and if they did I would pay someone else to do it.

Cleaning is not one of my strong points either, I do clean and I like clear surfaces which makes it easier.  I used to have a lady that came to the house once a fortnight and cleaned for me, sadly she gave it up to look after her family and I have never quite got round to looking for another on.  My flatmate Susan is amazing with the hoover though, gets the carpet on the stairs looking like new.

Websites…. Argh! You have no idea how much I hate spending my day at a computer trying to get things on the website to work.  That side of my business is where I am actively seeking someone to take over the tasks that chain me to a desk.

Buying stylish clothes, outside of buying gym gear and vest tops I need help, this task gets delegated to Kirsty, she knows just glancing at an outfit whether or not it will look good on you.

Accounts, another argh… I tried to do my own the first year I was self-employed, I got as far as going to the HMRC website and got stuck with the first couple of questions after my personal details, passed that on to an accountant.

It’s all about knowing your strengths and working with them.

That’s why people employ me, to take the thinking out of their exercise routines, eating plans and personal development. I know the right questions to ask to get you to the answers you need to get you moving in the right direction.

When you have tried and failed or tried and got a wee bit down the road you realise that it is better to delegate some of it to me to help get you there faster and potentially less painfully.

Have a look at your week and your goals. What can you delegate out to make your life work better, free up some of your time and take some of the stress off?

Embrace day 8.

Jen x

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You won’t believe what I did

When you get stuck inside your world and your problems it can be really difficult to see a way out of them. All you can see is the problem and everything that goes with it.

The best way to deal with it is to get out of it. Step away. Go away. Breathe. Take a time out.

Whether it is in work or your personal life, the more you try and sort it out inside the worse it gets and the less productive you can be. You get overwhelmed and panicked then you make bad decisions and sometimes even the stress of it will make you do mental things that are totally out of character. – I have gone out for the day and left my front door open, sent a text message that I really shouldn’t have, then followed that up with yet another message that I shouldn’t have, agreed to do things that I didn’t actually want to do or refused things that really would have been a great help…

Thankfully I haven’t done any really mental things in a while. I am getting better are stepping out, looking at the situation from a birds eye view and trying to make sense of all angles of the problem before it consumes normality.

My top tips for when things feel out of control.

  • Take a break, go for fresh air, make a cup of tea (camomile is always good)
  • Try to look at the situation from an unattached perspective
  • What would you tell a friend to do if they were in this situation?
  • Ask for help from someone objective

Don’t get stuck or let your world overwhelm you.

Breathe….

Jen x

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Who the hell is Freedom In Training?

I have never been someone who sticks at things that she hates doing. My philosophy is Life is Too Short for that shit.

Don’t get me wrong, I have done jobs that I hated just to pay the bills and stayed in a relationship or too way longer than I should have.

You have to try things to see if you like them. Finding your passion for most of us is about trial and error. There are very few who are born knowing what they want to do with their life.

Some things in life you just need to suck it up and get on with, like school, I hated school. I wasn’t delighted to be there, but I went and did the best I could uninspired and unmotivated, doing what I was told because I don’t like to get in to trouble.

I had no idea what to do with my life when I left school, so I picked the college course that interested me the most – Travel & Tourism. This was mostly down to the fact that there was an ‘educational’ at the end of the year. Yip, that’s right, I made my first big life decision based on going on holiday.

I loved that year at college, so much, that I got Student of the Year (not too shabby for someone who hated school and scraped through with 1 higher). That year took me in to a career in travel that spanned almost 15 years. I got to go and live in Greece and Gran Canaria then took off to live in Australia having travelled through quite a lot of Europe, South East Asia, China, Mongolia & Russia.

Somewhere towards the end of that 15 years, I realised that my passion wasn’t in working in the travel industry. I love travelling but that is about where my love affair with it ends. Booking people on 2 week all inclusive holidays to Benidorm or domestic business flights to London just didn’t get me excited.

The excitement was in fitness, in the gym. Anyone that gets up at 445am to be in the gym for 530am to be in a spin class at 6am seriously needs their head read or is in love with fitness. It took me a couple of years to work out how I was going to get my foot in the door and a couple of attempts at finding my road in.

Membership sales was NOT for me. Standing on the street in the middle of Sydney’s Bondi Junction, trying to get people’s phone numbers to take them on a tour of the gym was hell on earth. I lasted 3 weeks then walked out the day before my 30th Birthday. There was no way I was starting a new decade of my life doing something that stressed me out so much that I had a constant pain in my chest. The life was being sucked out of me, until I pulled my big girl pants on and sassy walked my ass out of there.

I got on a flight to China, got the train from China to Russia to fly back to the UK (I will always love travelling) and in to college to learn about this health and fitness stuff. That not being enough of course I signed up for as many courses as I could afford to build as much knowledge as I could.

I had found it, my passion, the thing that made me work 7 days a week, all day in college then working until 9 or 10pm at night, studying or on courses all weekend. I embraced any opportunity to get experience and learn from others in the industry.

5 years down the line I completed a degree in sport and exercise science and postgrad diploma in teaching adult learners under my belt. Business ventures tried and failed. Relationships came and went. Lots of lessons were learned and a LOT of fun is being had.

I have freedom now that I know what I am passionate about. I can explore the different avenues open to me. I want to reach out to as many people as possible to help them find their freedom. I keep learning, I keep sharing.

If you follow my emails you will know that every day I try to teach you something or point you in the direction of making your life better, happier, getting you away from the bad weeks. Someone recently said to me ‘you know you have bad weeks, then you have really bad weeks…’ These days I don’t have bad weeks, and if I do I focus on the positive stuff that came out of them.

Love me or hate me for it, it’s how I get through life. I’m your happy go lucky ray of fucking sunshine. I have had more than my fair share of shit thrown at me. I have had massive losses in love, life, friendships, and finances. But I have also had massive gains, and those gains will always outweigh the loss.

You have 2 choices in this life, stay down when you get knocked down and be a victim. Or, stand up, straighten your crown and fight on fearlessly.

I want you to find your sassy pants and wear them with pride. I want you to find your inner Warrior (check out my Warrior Woman Project http://freedomintraining.co.uk/warrior-woman-project/ ). I want you to find your passion. I want you to find your freedom.

Jen x

Solo dates and fun stuff

For quite a while now on Sundays I have been trying to do different things with my day. I am expanding my culture and experiences to develop me as a person.

I have been to the Art Galleries, the Transport Museum, Gallery of Modern Art, walked up Conic Hill, been climbing, to movies at the GFT…

Some of them I have done with friends, some on my own.

How often do you do things outside of your normal routine?

Do you ever go off and do stuff on your own? Taking time out by yourself.

I love spending time alone. Pottering, writing, reading, people watching, thinking about things, thinking about nothing.

I totally believe that you NEED to be comfortable doing things on your own.

It’s even more than comfortable, but happy & content. There is nothing more freeing and empowering than liking your own company.

People have more respect for you when they see that you are independent, weirdly it makes people want to hang out with you more.

Why do people want to hang out with you more? Because you display good, strong values and they see that they can learn from you.

If you are someone who isn’t comfortable on their own, like as soon as you are left alone the first thing you do is grab your phone and start texting, checking Facebook/ twitter or reading your emails.

Learn to not do that.

Your challenge for this week, if its something you are not good at.

Be alone, no phone for comfort. Go somewhere, do something different.

Go to a museum, coffee shop (you can take a book to read, but don’t use social media if you have your kindle/ipad/tablet to read, it must be a book), go for a walk, go for dinner, go on a day trip (the city tour buses are always good).

Let me know what you are doing for your challenge.

Fo and push yourself to do something outside your comfort zone.

Jen x

Ready, steady, GO

Ready… Steady… GO!

How do you know when you are ready? What is it you are going to be ready for?

“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.” Dr House (Hugh Laurie)

Why do you need to be ready? Will you ever be ready?

Or are you using it as an excuse to stall because you are afraid?

What is it you are afraid of? The unknown? Change? Being happy? It not working out? Failing? Moving on? Life being better?

Someone once told me, that to be successful you need to be in a risk taking mind-set.

You need to be prepared to make something different to get a positive change.

How will you know if you don’t try?

If you keep doing everything the same, you are going to get the same results. Makes sense really…

But if you are not loving it, and just going through the motions of life, then you are missing out BIG time.

Taking risks is hard, and things don’t always turn out how you planned or hoped, but a change does happen. Things don’t stay the same.

If you wait till tomorrow, is that going to be better? Not really. All you have done is delay everything by 24hrs.

What if tomorrow comes and you have missed the opportunity?

If you wait till tomorrow that is 1 less day to hit your goal meaning you will have to work that bit harder to catch up.

I read a book called The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, some of it was a bit too out there even for me, but the concept of not living in the past or living in the future but living in the present moment makes sense.

From the past we learn lessons. We learn what not to eat because it makes us feel shitty and put on weight. We learn some people are just dicks and there is nothing we can do about that but move on.

For the future all we can do is prepare for it, we take the lessons from the past, let go of the pain, take risks to make us happy now which will set us up for the future.

You have your goal – lets say its weight loss. Eating shit food and sitting on your arse thinking about it in the now is not going to prepare you for success in the future.

In the now you need to make choices, eat for your health, move more, do fun stuff so that a side effect of that will be a healthy weight and a happier life.

What do you need to do RIGHT NOW to make your life better?

Now is as good a time as any…

Ready…. Steady… GO!

Jen x

 

 

 

Love yourself… RANT

You say you want to look better so that you will feel better about yourself, so that you will feel more confident, happier.

You say you want to find love but it seems you don’t even love yourself…

How much are you prioritising yourself?

Do you eat for health?

Do you exercise or do activities that keep you healthy?

Do you have hobbies, interests that entertain you?

Are you learning new things everyday to develop yourself in to an even more amazing person?

If the honest answer to any of these questions is no (and that includes answers of hesitation, sometimes or not really) then you need to get a grip.

We comes back to that term ‘self-sabotage’.

The only person preventing you from being happy is you.

There might be people around you questioning you, doubting your abilities. My question to you would be, why they hell are they still around?

If you don’t love and respect yourself then why would anyone else? You do not need someone to ‘save’ you or entertain you.

The people around you – friends, family, partners should be there to compliment your life not complete it.

Think of people you have moved on from…

How did those relationships start out? What happened? Why did you end up moving away from it?

This is not just boyfriends / husbands / partners, this is friendships too. There was a reason they started and a reason they ended (not always a fall out, sometimes just drifting apart, moving on, a change of chapter in your life).

It’s time for to fall in love with yourself.

Surround yourself with people who inspire and motivate you to be better and want better.

You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with…

Make that average BIG, make it AMAZING. Make it that other people want you to be part of their 5.

It’s time to stop bullshitting yourself.

It’s time to take control and make you a priority.

Write a list of the 5 things you are least happy with.

Then write a list of the 5 things you are most happy with.

Using the 5 things you are most happy with, how can you use them to your advantage to change the things you are least happy with?

Write it down.

Make a plan.

Start working on it.

I want to know how you are getting on… So, do it today and let me know.

Jen x

that time I started to get fixed

Delighted with Jennifer (not me)… 8KG lost in 8 weeks. Slow and steady wins the race with sustainable changes… That’s what happens when you take control in the nutrition programme. Well done Jennifer (not me) J

So, Friday I got had a meet up with my mentor / head coach / life & business coach… Not really sure what title I give him (Brian), but he has made me cry in coffee shops at times over the years.

The first time I met Brian he was doing a talk in my college. He spoke to us about the pain barrier and how bad things needed to be before you did something about it.

I had no idea how much my life was about to change from that moment on.

Fast forward a year, and I found myself in a place where I was overwhelmed and lost.

My head was so noisy I couldn’t think straight, there were tears, there was booze, there were LOTS of nights out, there was a lot of look how great my life is Facebook updates (not really how I was feeling).

I contacted Brian to ask for help and we started having regular coaching sessions.

Time had come to get my head quiet and thoughts under control.

It was life changing.

I can quite honestly say that I would not have come as far in the last 4 years if it had not been for me taking time out to get my head out my arse.

Taking a step back, talking through the mental things that go on in your head and that you believe about yourself is the best way to sort that shit out.

Just saying something out loud can actually cause a penny drop moment.

I love a penny drop moment… The can arrive so unexpectedly and be revolutionary.

There would be times I would be answering a question and be like ‘ahhhhhh….. Now I get it….’

Other times I would start laughing at the ridiculousness of what was coming out my mouth.

We didn’t just work on personal stuff or just work stuff… They all kind of go hand in hand…

If you have a belief about yourself in your personal life that same belief could hold you back in your career.

You are good enough, you do deserve the best and you should NEVER EVER SETTLE.

That is why I have put together my Freedom In Training Transformation Programme.

I want to help you get your shit back on track. Take control of you life, your head, your happiness.

And not just that painted on smile that you put on for your audience (friends, family, work colleagues) I became a master at that but it eventually wore me down.

I hope that these emails are starting to make you think, and make small changes in your life. Jennifer (not me, the one who has lost 8KG) said that they were ‘like daily chicken soup for the soul’…

If you are totally not getting it feel free to unsubscribe at any time. Not everyone will like what I suggest or think and that is fine (you can do that at the bottom of this email).

If they are getting you thinking and you want to know more about my coaching programme then drop me a line, I am more than happy to talk more things through with you.

You never know how your life could change…

Just if you are nosey / interested since the biggest things that have happened to me in the last 4 years:

  • Divorce
  • HND at college while working full time.
  • Started a fitness business with a friend.
  • Opened a fitness studio with same friend.
  • Went to uni to do a degree while opening the studio and working full time.
  • Went on to do a post grad TQFE (still working full time) which I passed with Merit (shocked).
  • Closed both businesses with my friend (we are still friends by the way).
  • Started another business on my own (Freedom In Training)
  • Working with the Indoor Cycling Group, (was part of the presentation team in Blackpool & at LIW this year, am part of the Tabata Master Trainer team, and I am booked for Blackpool again next year).
  • Gave up lots of unnecessary things I did not need or want in my life.
  • Bought my house.
  • Got a whole lot of free time and happiness.
  • Learned how to say yes to more things and no to more things (picking what’s right for me)
  • Found my Freedom.

And that is just some of the things that I can think of off the top of my head…

There were some pretty tough times in that lot along with some very big highs… I wouldn’t change any of it, and appreciate that much of it might not have happened without someone there poking his sharp stick at me, pushing me and my beliefs that I wasn’t good enough…

Just something for you to have a think about… The best and worst question I ever get asked is ‘for what purpose’.

Next time you are thinking, run that question through your head, everything you do, you might surprise yourself.

Have a good day

Jen x

 

 

 

Out of my depth

So back in June I was in Peterborough for product training with the Indoor Cycling Group.

I was working with the Master Trainers from all across Europe, the head of training from here in the UK and the director of education from the States.

I kept pinching myself, wondering if it was a dream.

These guys are elite athletes, Olympic champions, Triathletes (and not the wee short distance ones that I have taken part in – full Olympic distance) and Ironmen competitors and some of them are seriously intelligent with PhD’s.

Then there is me… wee Jen from Glasgow that teaches indoor cycling to the best customers in Maryhill leisure centre…

In my head I am totally out my depth here… In reality, I was identified by the boss men Graham and Doyle as someone with potential to be part of this team.

Enter day one of being proud…

How often do you look at your life and wonder how the hell you got there?

Someone somewhere saw something in you and gave you a helping hand.

You believed enough in yourself to accept that help and take the step forward.

Why is it then that we suddenly stop and question our abilities?

What is it that you need to start believing in yourself again?

I want you to make a list of all your achievements in the last 12 months…

Everything.

If you read a book start to finish. Joined a club / group / course. Got a promotion in work. Changed jobs. Took the family on holiday. Paid off a credit card. Completed any task that you set out to do.

Write them all down.

What motivated you to do these tasks?

Let me know…

And how did I get on? I loved it, didn’t feel out of my depth at all, joined in conversation and discussion about stuff I learned at uni (I did actually learn stuff there) and performed well on the bike.

I have another 2 days with a different group today, this time, I am excited about it.

Jen x