Tech free for a day?

I love Day 7’s challenge. Tech-tox.

Taking time away from your techno gadgets (phone, tablet, laptop, PC etc) and connect with the real world.

For 1 day a week, do it. Leave your phone at home, don’t start up the laptop, switch it all off, obviously if you need it for work then you are going to have to do this on your day off.

But NO technology, if the thought of that is freaking you out (then you defo need to do this) start with meal times, the next week a couple of hours, then to half a day, then a whole day.

Go for a walk, read a real book (with actual pages), meet friends or family for tea / lunch, talk to people, people watch – play spot the person not on their phone, go to a museum, enjoy the scenery, walk in the countryside, go on the tourist bus round the city.

Get out of your social media (anti-social) world, away from images that make you feel crap about yourself, away from people that make you want to punch your laptop screen and enjoy some real world.

Let me know how you get on.

Just to remind you of the first 6 days:

Day 1 – Self-love letter, Day 2 – Meditate, Day 3 – Create a ritual, Day 4 – Take a bath, Day 5 – Eat mindfully, Day 6 – Go barefoot.

Jen x

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Monday Connection

It’s Monday again, this morning I am in London for 2 days of Master Trainer Training… I get to spend the next 2 days learning from more amazing people about delivering indoor cycling product courses.

I love these training days not just because I get to go on long train journeys, stay in hotels, have Epsom salts baths and have someone else cook for me but I get to learn and not just about the products and what it is we deliver when we go out in to gyms.

I get to be with people from different countries, see how others teach, see how they deliver and get to upskill my own communication skills. I need to think about how I speak, the speed I talk at (which can be pretty fast) and the different ways that we communicate with each other.

It’s not just about the words we use, it’s our body language, facial expressions, and tone.

How people connect and communicate fascinates me and I seem to be coming across more and more people that want real life connection rather than just texts and social media. These do have their uses for fast communication and making arrangements. But nothing beats real face to face time.

That is why most of the woman who signed up to the Warrior Woman Project took the option to have a couple of one to one sessions with me.

Having the weekly tasks delivered to their inbox means they can work on it in their own time but having those one to one sessions’ means that they can talk through things to get their thoughts and ideas clear in their head along with being held more accountable. They WILL take action.

When we live in a world that seems to be stuck behind a keyboard it’s good to get real words with real people. You can hear and feel their tone and mood which can totally get lost when you are reading it on screen…

Ever read a message and thought that someone was being really rude or short with you and when you spoke to them it was the complete opposite?

Take some time to have some real conversations and connect with people

Happy Monday

Jen x

 

Go the extra mile to get an extra mile

Yesterday I was talking to you about communication and connecting with people.

There are some people that you instantly click with and others that need a bit more work. Sometimes though that work can just be about you and what head space you are in when you first meet.

If your head is busy and you are distracted, straight away you can give off a disinterested and stand offish vibe that could make the other person not feel comfortable to be themselves. Or maybe it is them who is distracted and has other things on their mind…

Remember, only your world revolves around you. You are the most important person in your world, they are the most important person in theirs. Fair’s fair.

If you do want people to respond and connect with you more, you need to put in some of the ground work, be open to conversation, say ‘Hi’ first, smile, make the effort, even ask how their day is going.

I had a conversation with a client recently who was talking about how much better her friend gets treated when she goes to restaurants and café’s and in shops than she does. I remember having had the same problem. I watched the people I know that get great service to see what was different.

The difference was I didn’t really give much energy or take much notice of the people I was dealing with. I was polite, said my pleases and thank you’s but didn’t really take much other notice. I was too busy in my own head, thinking about my own stuff.

When I started to be more present in these transactions, gave attention to whoever I was connecting with it changed. I was nicer to them, they were nicer to me.

We can’t expect people to go the extra mile for us if we don’t go the extra mile and show we give a shit about them.

There will be some people that no matter how nice you are to them you will get nothing back. You don’t know what is going on in their world so don’t take it personally.

It only takes a little bit of effort to make a situation much more pleasant for both of you.

Have a great Tuesday

Jen x