So, I sat down the other night, typically there was nothing on so flicked through the TiVo to see what had been recorded…
Secret Eaters… I love this show.
People who are overweight and can’t understand why have secret cameras and people spying on them to see what it is they really are eating that is stopping them lose weight.
The usual scenario is they think they are eating 1200 calories when in fact they are necking down not a kick in the arse off 3000 calories.
Quite often too many of the calories are hidden. I saw one guy who drank 2 litres of coke a day who had swapped it for what he thought was the healthy option of fruit juice… 2 litres of that a day.
Pretty much the same sugar and calorie content in both drinks and it hadn’t even occurred to him that this was all calories.
Best one I saw was a woman who stopped off for a chippy on the way home from the supermarket to make dinner…. Eh?!
I don’t think this was the first time she had done that the way the staff in the chip shop were chatting to her and there had been no mention of it in her food diary she had submitted to the show.
Thing is, the only person she is cheating by doing that is herself.
‘If no one sees me eat it then it doesn’t count’
YES it does count. It’s a lie. A lie to yourself.
The same as, ‘it was only a wee bit of cake’ ‘I only had 3 sausage rolls when I would normally have 5’.
Excuses and lies you tell yourself to forgive yourself…
Why? So that you don’t feel bad in that moment, even though you know you are going to feel bad later and then even worse when you stand on the scales or get the measure tape out.
I ask all my clients to do me a food diary.
Do they do it? Not always. I know when they have had a bad week because they conveniently have forgotten to do it.
Those are the weeks they feel sluggish, moody, their skin has wee breakouts and they feel guilty.
When they do it though, they eat better. They eat more consciously. They feel better. They have more energy.
Plus they know that if they do have a treat or a couple of wines at the end of the week, they have had a good week as an insurance policy.
Brian (my coach I told you about yesterday) has a great point. You can’t try to do anything… You are either doing it or you are not doing it. Try to pick up a pen… you are either picking it up or you are not… there is no in between.
I did throw this back at him one day during PT when he told me he was trying to complete his 50 push ups but kept stopping… Bet he wishes I didn’t pay so much attention to him.
It’s not just about food that we lie to ourselves about. I remember when I went back to uni and stayed in most weekends to study. Reality was I spent about 2hrs of the whole weekend actually studying the rest on Facebook, Twitter, google search buying new stuff…
The biggest thing I lost out on was a social life.
Doing my postgrad I was more tactical. 2hrs offline, no mobile, study. As soon as I had done 2 hours the rest of my time was mine… Worked a treat (I know I keep bragging about it but I am still shocked… I passed with Merit).
When you are not meeting your goals you need to take a step back and look at why. If you set your goal and worked out the plan you should be on your way (that’s why reviewing at least every 4 weeks is ideal).
Where are you going wrong? What lies are you telling yourself? What help do you need to get it on track?
Tell the people around you what you are trying to achieve and ask them for help. If you tell people then you need to hold yourself accountable.
You are responsible for your own actions and your own life.
Don’t be reduced to an hour of fame by getting secret cameras to follow you around and shame you in to getting results.
What is the biggest lie you are telling yourself right now?
Tell me, I want to know & I may be able to help in future emails…
Promise I won’t name and shame you.