I was looking back to see what I had started last year’s emails with and found this:
‘Last night I bumped in to my neighbour who last week told me that his new year’s resolution was chucking drinking and smoking…
He was out smoking when I saw him last night and he had a few ‘curers’ to get him through the day… He is all over those resolutions when he starts tomorrow.’
Update on that resolution… said neighbour ended up in jail after smashing in his windows while drunk back in the summer and now that he is out of jail he is now not allowed to stay at his house with his kids… Bet he wishes he had taken to those resolutions after all…
With all the will in the world, it takes more than positive thinking and talking to get you on track, you need to be taking positive action as well.
Your first positive action needs to involve breaking bad habits and that means putting you and your needs first – and it doesn’t even need to be a huge step, anything that is in the right direction to where you want to be.
I had a very brief conversation with this neighbour when he was up visiting recently when he filled me in on where he had been (he is very open for someone I see in passing) and that he needed to try to be a good boy now to keep out of trouble. My and my coaching head was quick to suggest that instead of trying he could just be good and he responded that ‘it was really hard when you weren’t happy…’
That made me feel really sad for him…
And it also got me thinking about why we can find it hard to make changes in our life to make them better. When we feel stuck and are so deep in our own situation it can be really hard to see a reasonable way out – that’s when we hit the self-sabotage button big time and find our vice to help us escape – drink, cigarettes, drugs, food, shopping… we look for the quick fix of stuff that pushes back down the emotional stuff.
Don’t get me wrong, taking the first steps can feel terrifying and overwhelming, your comfort blanket is being taken off you, you don’t get to be your own victim any more or have that excuse of ‘that’s just how it is’.
But when you actually take a step outside of your own head and look at things through clearer eyes you can narrow down what the real issue is and work out a way to start sorting things out.
It can be really simple things I have spoken to you about if you want to lose weight, cut out the little things and get moving more, if you want to be smarter, you need to switch off social media and read more – how many conversations do you have that start ‘did you see on Facebook…’?
If you want to improve your business, you need to make those calls, ask for the sale, get your name known, get out networking, speak at events, and learn new skills.
Make time to see friends or family more and arrange your social life around things that will help you grow as a person, not all nights out need to be at the pub, check out yelp.com for cool ideas of places to go and see in your local area. If you need a new group of friends check out meetup.com or search for a Girl Crew in your city – I totally love my new friends and we have so far done quite a few fun things together in the lead up to Christmas and New Year…
You need to stop procrastinating and start taking action or we will be having the same conversation next year.
If you are telling yourself that you are going to start tomorrow, I am going to ask you why? Why not just start today? Maybe you don’t go back to work until tomorrow so you see that as a good excuse… Maybe you start back today and you are using that as an excuse because it’s the first day back after the holidays and January can be such a depressing month…
Stop making excuses and start having an awesome year, if you don’t you will only regret not starting sooner later in the year (bikini body is made in the winter).