How do you cope when things start to go wrong?
Do you fall down and be the victim asking ‘why me?’ or do you stand up and ask yourself ‘what do I need to do now? How can I deal with this situation?’
Depending on the circumstances the reaction may be different. You might handle work challenges better than personal challenges or the other way around…
If you handle some situations better than others what is the difference?
If you always fall victim, what does that get you? Does someone else step in and save you? Does it get you attention? Does it make you feel better if someone agrees with you and lets you wallow in pity?
When you hit a challenge take a moment, take a breath, think. What can you do to deal with this in the best way? Who can you reach out to for assistance? What needs to happen to make things okay?
For those of you who have been with me for a while you will know that being vulnerable is not something I am good at, it is something I need to make a conscious effort to be. Asking for help gives me an uneasy feeling and I don’t want anyone to think I can’t manage…
Being able to admit that you need help and reach out is a strength; being a victim waiting to be saved isn’t… start to understand the difference.
What can I help you with?