Over the summer I was at a course at Strathclyde Uni, called writing for wellness.
It was about how to write through traumatic events in your life, which has been scientifically proven to be beneficial in getting through the aftermath of the event.
Because it was a one day course it wasn’t about digging in to our deepest worries and fears but to introduce us to different techniques that don’t make problems disappear but help change your perspective of them.
One that I found to benefit me the most in the quickest time (and is pretty easy to do) is the gratitude journal.
If you are an Oprah lover like me then you will already know all about gratitude journals.
Every night before you go to bed write down 3 things you are grateful for from that day and why.
‘I am grateful for _________ because _________’
Some days this might be really hard if you have had a shit day and you might just have been grateful for a cup of tea. Other days you are going to have more than 3.
The more you do this, the more you start to look for things through the day that you are grateful for then before you know it your head is in a much more positive place.
I get my Warrior Women to write down every day something they are proud of themselves for, this makes them think more about themselves and the things that they achieve on a day to day basis that they maybe didn’t give themselves credit for.
The good news from the feedback is it is working, they are looking for those positive things, they see the way they handle the shit that gets thrown at them on a daily basis. They are recognising how they are growing, where maybe they used to comfort eat, they are now dealing with the crap and feeling better about it.
It’s not easy, we find it hard to praise ourselves, it’s so much easier to beat ourselves up and believe that we can’t cope and live in that cycle of destruction. It’s not a happy place, but it’s easier, or at least that’s what we convince ourselves.
I set you this challenge, 3 things you are grateful for every day and 1 thing you are proud of, notice your mood and how much better things seem when you start to shine a different light on them.
Look out for those things that put a wee smile on your face