How many times do you look at someone on TV, in a magazine, in the gym / supermarket / shopping centre and think, I would love to have their legs / bum / abs / chest / arms / hair / nose etc.??
It is easy to get caught up comparing everything to someone else, whether it’s the stories they tell, how they portray their life on social media or what you read about in the press about the ‘celebrities’.
The thing that we all forget, and I don’t think I have ever come across anyone who doesn’t want at least one thing someone else has… a bit more money, business to be busier, body to be different, to get more like’s on posts or photo’s on Facebook or Instagram…
When we live in a world now with instant fame, overnight success (or what seems to be overnight success), easy access to and constant advertising of plastic surgery or enhancements for your eyes, teeth, hair, skin…
It seems that we are never happy with what we have.
Now in some instances this is not a bad thing, we can use it as motivation to make ourselves better. We eat a bit healthier, move more, take care of how we look each day and create more of a life that we are happy to live.
What we need to focus on is making ourselves the best version of us, not a second rate copy of someone else, not a second rate version of us either…. Be the best that we can be in that given moment in time.
Learn to love the body you have. You can’t change your height, structure or body type, but you can make the most of what you have.
Just stop comparing yourself to others.
Do everything you can to get the best out of you – eat well, exercise, read, go on courses, learn, look for activities to expand your mind and social network, do things to have a healthy body and mind.
The late Joan Rivers was quoted as saying ‘happiness is when you are too busy to know if you are happy or not’.
Thanks to the joy of social media, we spend too much time looking and watching what other people are doing (or claiming to do) that we sit winding ourselves up about how we are not good enough and at the same time doing nothing about it other than worrying and feeding our insecurity.
Or worse, thinking that a trip down to the surgeon’s office for a lift, tuck, botox shot or implant will change everything and all our worries will be gone (they won’t, you will find something else wrong).
Most of us have insecurities about our bodies. Most of us have a level of body dysmorphia and body envy of someone else. The fact is we are all amazing in some way, we are tall or short, we have curves or are lean, and we have a variety of hair colour that can be changed in a visit to the hairdresser.
Surround yourself with people who make the best of what they have and be inspired by them.
Get busy creating a healthy, happy environment that doesn’t give you time to envy others, let them envy you (and then pass them my email address so they can sign up for these emails to inspire them too).
Distance yourself from social media, ditch the trash celeb magazines and anything else that makes you feel bad (believe me, you are awesome in your own special way).
I have set this challenge before (but not for a long time).
Look in the mirror, find 5 things you like about yourself. Write them down and keep them somewhere you can see them. Then later in the day or the following morning write another 5.
Start noticing the lovely bits (believe me, there will be many).