Are you mindful or is your mind full?
One of my many amazing gifts was The Little Book of Mindfulness. As many of you may already know (and for those of you who are newer readers) at the start of last year I spent a great deal of time trying to work out how to do this meditation stuff.
I really got myself worked up trying to meditate that I am sure for the first couple of months I was doing more harm than good.
Then the lovely Lauren got me this book as a gift and in it there was a very useful quote from Steve Jobs
‘If you try to calm [the mind], it only makes it worse, but over time it does calm, and when it does, there’s room to hear more subtle things – that’s when your intuition starts to blossom and you start to see things more clearly and be in the present more. Your mind just slows down, and you see a tremendous expanse in the moment. You see so much more than you could see before. It’s a discipline, you have to practice it.’
I remember when I met up with Lyn (one of my lovely readers) back when I was first trying to find my way with meditation and she had explained these point to me.
Your mind is a muscle like any muscle in your body, it needs to be worked to keep active. At first it’s really difficult and you feel like it’s not working right, then things fall in to place and it works and gets easier.. And like any muscle when you stop practice, when you go back it is difficult to get back in to it but you do easier than when you first started. It is always easier to just keep at it.
Like any new ritual you need to set yourself reminders or triggers to get you started until things become second nature (just like yesterday’s learning to walk and read the flow won’t happen overnight, you need to put a bit of work in at the start).
One of the first tips to get you started from the book is to focus on your breath. Follow the breath in and out. That is all you are thinking about. Try it for a few minutes every morning before you get up and every night before you go to sleep. Just taking those few minutes a couple of times a day will quiet the chatter in your head allowing you to settle and feel clearer. Once you start to see the benefit of that you will want to do it more and more.
Let me know how you get on
PS last couple of days to get you space booked on the Goal Setting Overcome your Overwhelm workshop (we will be doing a bit on mindfulness and meditation) grab your ticket here: https://warriorwomanproject.ticketlight.co.uk/order/gateway/13313830