I know it’s not even the middle of November yet and I am going to mention the dreaded New Year’s Resolutions (NYR), yes you did read that right!
For those of you who have been following me for a while now you might already know that I am not a huge fan of the NYR mostly because most people make the exact same ones every year OR they only make them at New Year and wait all year to address them.
Recently someone I was talking to told me that she had made a NYR to take more time off this year, and she had. She had been away on holiday loads throughout the year, but she was exhausted from all the travelling and even though she wasn’t ‘working’ she was constantly on the go. This year her NYR would be to stick with the time off but have it as down time instead of always going away…
I think it is fantastic that she made a resolution and stuck to it, what confused me though is why wait for the year to be done before amending it?
I am a big believer in starting to work towards goals but, if it doesn’t fit, change it.
I was talking to one of my clients recently too about setting some goals to help her focus for the next couple of months. She was finding it really hard trying to find something that she actually wanted to achieve or specifically work towards (I totally get that) so instead our focus for her ‘goals’ is about how she wants to feel.
I want to feel healthy – make sure that you are eating food that makes you feel good, do some exercise or activity that you enjoy.
I want to feel happy – make sure that you are doing things every single day that make you feel happy, whether it is spending time alone, time with someone, watching a comedy, doing your favourite activity, whatever it is you need in your world to make you feel happy do that.
I want to feel confident – focus your attention on the things that make you feel good. Whether it is a particular outfit you look good in, doing something you are good at, pushing yourself to do something that you have been putting off.
I want to have more friends/a relationship – smile, say hi, start talking to more people (in real life not on your phone/ social media), invite people along to things you are going to be doing anyway.
The task is taking the big things and breaking them down in to small wins that take you in the right direction.
By taking that step back and working out the small things it makes everything else seem less overwhelming.
Every single small win gives you more energy, gives you more confidence and gets you on track then you wonder why you felt so overwhelmed when you could get things done all along…
Whatever you do, don’t give up, keep putting in some effort (even if it’s just the 10% I talked about last week)