It’s okay to change your mind…
I had a conversation with a client recently who was going through some struggles like we all do from time to time.
They were changing their mind about what they wanted from life. Their career wasn’t rewarding anymore, there was no real connection to the circle of friends and they didn’t feel they fitted anymore and their relationship had been going through the motions purely out of habit.
Stuck and lost was how they felt.
It brings to mind the Alice in Wonderland quote:
‘Alice: how long is forever?
White Rabbit: Sometimes just one second’
When we feel stuck and lost it can feel like it’s been forever. It can feel like forever ago that we were once happy in our situation and it can feel like it will take forever to get it all sorted.
If forever is sometimes just one second that second can be the difference of making the decision to change.
What that change is, is entirely up to you. What the change needs to be is something that will make you ultimately happier.
I have been in the situation described at the start, that was me 6 years ago, it has been my friends, clients, people I know many times over the years. It doesn’t all have to be at once. Sometimes there will be one area that is out of whack while the rest is awesome.
The biggest fear for most people comes from what if I make the wrong decision? Or, but I made a commitment/ promise/ contract/ pinkie swear that things would always be this way…
The problem (or not problem but fact) is we all change, we all grow, we all have our own path and what fits one day might not fit the next.
All we can do is be honest, do our best and know that it is okay to change our minds about what we want and what makes us happy.
Remember, not making a decision to change is still making a decision…