I was reading a blog a while back that was talking about bringing up kids and about things the author believes we should never say to kids when you are bringing them up or coaching them, teaching them or being around them and influencing them.
His list was this:
- Don’t Run (or Don’t Cry)
- Clean Your Plate
- Be Good At Everything
- You Get What You Get
Now my first thought was, OK… but what about yourself? How often do you say these things to yourself? How much do they hold you back? How do they make you feel about yourself? How much pressure do you put on yourself?
We need to stop being mean to ourselves (and the kids of course) and start giving ourselves a break.
The article then went on to talk about the things you should be saying to kids on a regular basis:
- Have Fun
- I Love You
- You Can Do It
- I Am Proud Of You
Now, how often do you tell yourself any of these? How much would this push you forward? How much better would you feel? How much less stressed would you feel? How much happier would you be?
Copy the list of what you should be saying and keep it somewhere you can see it. Make a conscious effort to say these things more often. (Maybe not yes to cake every day and not no to stuff that doesn’t make you happy – remember you have goals).
Try it for a day, see how you get on (set reminders on your phone, have pop ups come up on your screen on the computer, whatever you need to remind yourself.