Fear comes from the unknown outcome usually when something is different or is a change, we let our imagination take charge and it can be pretty wild in the outcomes we assume could happen.
We are creatures of habit and we are programmed to do things that are familiar and make us feel safe.
Today is about is thinking about your fears, write them down, look at them.
Are they real fears? What exactly is it you fear?
Is there a way that you can overcome them?
When you see them in black and white does it make them seem ridiculous?
There are so many things in life that we want, but fear holds us back and that is what we are looking at today rather than a fear of spiders, which unless you want a job that involves touching spiders is not going to be a fear that holds you back.
I have a genuine dislike of heights, I hold on to the banister going down the stairs in my house because I can get dizzy. It’s sudden drops down that scare me though, I can go up hills and appreciate the view. Even though I have this fear, I climbed Sydney Harbour Bridge, it was a once in a lifetime experience that I wanted to do and enjoyed the view… just don’t ask me to look down. Yes, I was scared, but for me it was worth it.
On the other hand I am scared of some films, Taken freaked me out… that is not a real fear…it’s a move, not real life and that fear doesn’t hold me back in life.
Your fears could be from a whole list of things:
A new job, a whole new career where you have to start from square 1, starting your own business, coming out of a relationship that you know you are not happy in, going in to a new relationship when you have been single for ages, starting your personal training sessions, starting to eat for your health instead of the junk comfort foods, signing up for that course you have been looking at for ages, even getting a new haircut…
You know that you have a list of things that you want to achieve and there are things that you need to change to get there.
Write down what it is you are afraid of for each one and think about what it is you are actually afraid of and how you could overcome that fear or is there something you could do to make it better.
When I was really struggling, every morning I would write my morning pages.
As soon as I woke up, before I did anything else, I picked up the pen and notepad by the side of my bed and wrote, 2 sides of A4 paper.
Just whatever came in to my head, you don’t think about what you are writing, or spelling or grammar, try not to take the pen off the paper and just write.
I never read it back, and still to this day haven’t. the theory behind it is you get rid of the nonsense crap you don’t need and puts you in touch with the dreams you do need.
Doing it first thing when you wake up is when you are most in tune with your dreams and unconscious mind, as soon as the logical side of your brain kicks in it can be harder to hear the unconscious part.
Just doing this can unblock some of your fears and insecurities and answer some questions that you struggle to work out.
I saw a link on Facebook just yesterday talking about fear and how it is the most boring thing about you… your fears are boring, my fears are boring and they make us boring…
Go write your fears and remember change doesn’t happen repeating the same things over, you need to challenge yourself to change… Acknowledge the fear then ditch it… Lets not be boring