Life Evaluation Time

It is the second last day of the month, can you believe it? Well, probably, I was talking about it on Monday and getting you to start thinking about what you want for the last quarter of the year…

Where are you in your life?

Where do you want to be?

Are you taking the necessary steps, even if they are the tiniest baby steps in the right direction?

What help do you need to get you through to the end of the year?

Who can you reach out to?

What needs to happen to move you forward?

Life evaluation time…

With love

Jen x

 

Emotional Wreck

When I was having dinner the other night with my mum we were having a conversation about emotions, Prozac and Valium and if there should be a need for them… Watch Passengers (2016)

Random kind of conversation but it brought up an interesting point that we had previously noticed in the dog at fireworks night a couple of years ago.

When you take medication to block your emotions it can be a really stressful and difficult experience to not be able to let the emotions out.

I would just like to say at this point, I am in no way suggesting that if you have been prescribed these medications from your Dr you should stop taking them…

What I am thinking about is how you can’t feel what sometimes you need to feel (these medications can be useful when the emotions are so overwhelming you can’t function).

There was also a memory that particularly from the older generations (my gran) that you weren’t really allowed to publically show your emotions. I remember being told at one grandparents death that I had cried enough now, I had to stop and be fine…

I definitely got the Wilson’s not showing emotion gene, my mum will cry hearing a song, all the way through Love Actually, and I am pretty sure she cried at a Christmas advert…

Why is it that some of us don’t want to feel the emotions? Why is it that we have this thing about being so strong we can deal with anything but don’t need to experience the emotion of life…

I believe that we are a walking emotion. We are happiness, sadness, anger, joy, despair, courage… we are every emotion you can think of and we should allow ourselves to be and feel them all. If you numb and dampen one, you numb and dampen everything…

If you can’t feel sadness then you can’t feel joy…

It’s not just prescription medication that we use to numb our emotions… there are so many things from watching TV, shopping, drinking to eating. Anything that distracts us from being and feeling numbs our emotions.

Take notice of the things you are doing. What is it that you are trying not to feel?

Is there anything that I can do to help?

With love

Jen x

It’s okay to have a slump day

I love having conversations with random people and the other day I ended up having a conversation with someone about the energy you bring.

Some people can walk in to a room and light it up and some can walk in and do the complete opposite.

I am someone (if you don’t know me) who lives in a positive energy. As much as possible I make the most of a situation, I don’t let changes to the plan ruin my experience, and when everything is going wrong I try to look on the bright side.

That isn’t to say that I don’t have bad days, I do. There are days I am exhausted, I don’t feel great, I feel drained or I just can’t be bothered or someone has drained me because I have allowed their negative energy to overpower me.

When we have these off days I don’t think for one second that you should hide it and pretend to the world that everything is rosie, but I do think you need to select your time to have the less positive energy.

There will be times that I teach a class and I am pretty much going through the motions, saying the right things, smiling, helping doing the best I can. I know that the next time I see this class I need to be 110% for them.

People who have been in my class and are remotely switched on just know… They can feel the energy and the difference.

What is your energy like?

Do you recognise when you are not on your top game?

Do you know what it is that knocks you off your game?

Do you know what you need to do to get back in the game?

Understanding who you are and what you need to be in the right energy is really important. Try to be around people that help you re-energize and find a way to deal with the people that suck your energy out.

Most importantly allow yourself to have those off days and don’t hide away under a false smile, just try to understand where it is coming from and get yourself out the slump as quickly as possible.

With love

Jen x

Saturday Kitchen

I was given an amazing gift recently of Matcha Green Tea powder (it is worth paying extra for the ceremonial grade tea – it is expensive but worth it) and a Matcha Latte is my favourite morning drink just now…

Matcha and Almond Milk Latte

¼ teaspoon Matcha Green TeaRoblox Free Unlimited Robux and Tix

300-400ml almond milk (homemade is best)

1 teaspoon honey (less if you do not have a sweet tooth)

Heat the almond milk to around 70 degrees (use a milk thermometer if you have one) do not let the milk boil.

Add the milk to the mug with the Matcha and honey and stir or whisk well.

The Matcha will leave some grains at the bottom, some may enjoy a sprinkle of cinnamon powder across the top.

 

Friyay

Friyay 🙂

If you live in Glasgow, it’s the September weekend and that means if you teach or are a college student you will have a long weekend… if you are like the rest of us then nothing really changes, life goes on as normal.

I love hearing about what you are getting up to over the weekend so please fill me in… There are no grand adventures planned this weekend (not at the moment anyway), I am saving myself for next weekend’s London adventure.

Let me know what you are up to, I am always looking for inspiration…

Happy weekend

Jen x

 

 

Thursday Love

It’s Thursday, hopefully your forward thinking on Monday has helped you get through your week or even better it wasn’t as challenging as you had thought that it might be…

Are you remembering to take time for you?

The biggest complaint I hear about why people are not better organised is the time that it takes to get organised in the first place.

What comes in to play here is understanding that making the time to get organised helps everything else run more smoothly.

Are you giving too much to everyone else and not enough to for yourself?

Is there anything that you can do just for you today? Even if it is hiding away somewhere and enjoying a cup of tea or coffee, away from the rest of your usual world.

Make time for you today as a priority…

With love

Jen x

Knowledge is power

Knowledge is power, action is even more powerful…

We often hear that knowledge is power, and it is, the more we can learn, know and understand the better off we are.

What do you do with that knowledge though? Do you ever take action with the knowledge?

If you learn about an environmental issue, or humanity issue, or local community problem, do you do anything about it? Does it change the actions you take?

The more I learn about animal cruelty in cosmetics the more it makes me think about the products I use and the companies I buy from.

The more I learned last year about the homeless crisis we had here in Glasgow the more I wanted to help and now regularly donate to the City Mission.

When I learn something new about the body and how to help it move better the more I want to share that knowledge with my classes so they can get the benefits too…

There is other knowledge I gain that I really don’t know what do to with it, politics, humanity crises around the world, poverty etc.

We can’t fix every single problem in the world, the best place for us to start is with ourselves. Who can we be, what can we do better in our direct world to make that better? From that we create a ripple effect.

On Saturday I was reduced to tears by my spin class at Maryhill. After 6 years being with them I am moving on and Patsy gave a beautiful presentation and told me that we had such an amazing class and that had filtered down from the top. The care and attention I showed each of them filtered through and they followed my example and gave care and attention to each other in class.

When I went on to my Pilates class after that I had a new guy at class and at the end of class I was having a chat with him and he said he was really impressed with the attention I gave each of the class participants and that he really felt part of the class (I didn’t cry on him thankfully) but I again had my attention brought to the effect I had on them.

I hadn’t considered at any time the effect I was creating, I am just doing my job, which I love and thankfully that shines through.

Are you being the change you would like to see in the world?

I genuinely hope so.

With Love

Jen x

 

Strength or Weakness

How do you cope when things start to go wrong?

Do you fall down and be the victim asking ‘why me?’ or do you stand up and ask yourself ‘what do I need to do now? How can I deal with this situation?’

Depending on the circumstances the reaction may be different. You might handle work challenges better than personal challenges or the other way around…

If you handle some situations better than others what is the difference?

If you always fall victim, what does that get you? Does someone else step in and save you?  Does it get you attention? Does it make you feel better if someone agrees with you and lets you wallow in pity?

When you hit a challenge take a moment, take a breath, think. What can you do to deal with this in the best way? Who can you reach out to for assistance? What needs to happen to make things okay?

For those of you who have been with me for a while you will know that being vulnerable is not something I am good at, it is something I need to make a conscious effort to be. Asking for help gives me an uneasy feeling and I don’t want anyone to think I can’t manage…

Being able to admit that you need help and reach out is a strength; being a victim waiting to be saved isn’t… start to understand the difference.

What can I help you with?

With love

Jen x

 

Moving in the right direction

Yesterday I got you looking at yourself and finding 6 things that you like about yourself. Today you continue that task. Don’t worry if you don’t think other people agree with you. It’s not about them or what they think, and most likely they will produce a much longer list for you much quicker than you are prepared to accept…

It’s time to not fit with what we have been conditioned to think about ourselves…

The consumer world outside of us runs on our insecurities. Every product that you buy is sold to you on a promise that you will be happier with that particular product.

Everything from food, drink, cosmetics, clothing, electronic devices… If you consume these, you will fit in, you will have friends, a great social life, be accepted, blah, blah, blah.

Let me ask you this, of all the things you own, how many of them actually still make you happy?

The process of the purchase is a buzz, handing over your card, getting the item bagged up, walking through town with your new purchase, that is joy right there for about 10 minutes… I know this, I am a former shopaholic.

I shopped when I felt down, when I was bored, when I got paid, when I had no money, when I was happy, because it was Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday…

Having someone compliment your ‘stuff’ is a buzz (it’s not a compliment to you, so you can accept it no problem) – I hope that you are getting over throwing those compliments back at people…

Happiness comes from the inside, acceptance of who you are or what you are capable of to change. If there is something that you are not happy with then you have the full control to make changes to improve it.

All you need is the balls to do it.

I would love to hear you say ‘I am happy with my life and I did that’.

Before I got to that stage I needed help. I reached out, I got myself mentors and coaches. I spent time and money learning about myself, improving my skills, developing my life to make it one that I now love.

It’s not a one week process, I have been working on myself and I still am daily for years now. Finding the right people to work with is the first task. There have been some amazing influences in my life and some average ones.

If you are really struggling with this then the Warrior Woman Project can help www.warriorwomanproject.com there are basic packages set up and they can all be tailor-made to suit your needs. If you just want personal development life coaching then we can create the right package for you. If you just want fitness training then we can create the right package for you. If you just want nutrition coaching we can create the right package for you… You can do one to one or group work. All you need to do is get in touch and we can have a chat to get you moving in the right direction.

Hit reply to this email or call / text 07875 036659 (if you get voicemail leave a message so I can get back to you)

With love

Jen x

Don’t feel guilty

Are you happy with how you look when you look at yourself in the mirror?

You should be.

You should love your curves, your lumps, your bumps, your stretch marks, your scars… You should love your body.

Why is it that it seems to be more socially acceptable to hate on yourself than love on yourself?

I saw a video recently that had gone viral, the woman creating the video had asked 100 women to in one word describe their body… Of all the footage not one of the women said anything nice about themselves.

This made me feel guilty… And that is wrong…

I have had people say to me ‘yeah, it’s okay for you when you look like that’

I work hard to keep in shape and for the most part I enjoy it. I love my job, I walk my talk, I eat good food (and some bad because I am human). I have spent thousands of pounds and probably thousands of hours working on myself to be a better version of myself, inside and out… There are things that I am self-conscious about (again I am human) and that is just when I am comparing myself to others.

I unfollowed loads of pages on Facebook and Instagram because I wasn’t motivated by the airbrushed beautiful images because they made me feel like shit about myself.

Why is it less socially acceptable to love and be happy with yourself?

I have set this challenge many times before and I have had amazing feedback from it so I am setting it for you again today.

Look in the mirror in the morning and find 3 things that you like about yourself, then just before you go to bed I want you to add another 3 things.

Every day for the rest of the week, that is what you have to do… keep adding. Get your focus off the things you see as things you don’t like and start to find the things you do.Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download

Change your focus and you see yourself differently.

With love and no guilt

Jen x

PS This is something that we work on in the Warrior Woman Project www.warriorwomanproject.com get in touch to discuss your options today