2nd last day of the month and nearly 2/3rds of the way through the year… As I do every month and even more this time is to ask you how you are doing with your goals / dreams / desires / plans / resolutions?
Review this last month, where is your list of goals? Have you been ticking everything / anything off?
If you haven’t, do you still want what is on that list? If you do, it gets added on to next months, if you don’t score it out.
Now I want to you think bigger, what did you want to get out of the year? Are you happy with where you are at? If you are way ahead or way off course of where you thought you wanted to be, is that okay to be where you are?
Feeling lost or stuck is horrible… I know this from experience. Sometimes it is hard to breathe, sometimes you can’t get a clear thought, sometimes you just feel sad and are not sure exactly why.
That is why I created the Warrior Woman Project (www.warriorwomanproject.com), to help women like us get over these hurdles. It can be so easy to lie to ourselves and say we don’t really want XYZ and no one knows…. Except you!
Are you ready to get moving forward?
Look at that list, what needs to happen?
Always with love
How much do you love a Monday or are you a Monday hater?
If you are a hater, what is it about today that makes you feel down?
Sometimes it can just be everyone else gets the Monday Blues so it must be something that we should all do, like I talked about in last week’s email, the law of perception?
Start to find the things you like and enjoy about today. Who do you get to see, who do you get to talk to that brightens up your day?
Today, I have taken the morning / afternoon off to go through to Edinburgh to see Sheree, who is here on an unexpected visit from Australia. We have one lunch to try and catch up the last 6 years since we last saw each other… Now this is going to be hard, when we worked together we talked all day every day Monday – Friday and she was my sunshine that meant I didn’t get the Monday Blues.
Maybe it’s not a person, maybe it’s an activity or a thing that you get to do. Maybe it’s what you prepared for lunch…
Change your perspective and look for that thing that will help get you through your day…
IF that doesn’t work then I would really be suggesting that you start a job search pronto…
Happy Monday, with love as always
Last Sunday I went out for breakfast and had granola for breakfast… I forgot how delicious it was… so made my own…
200g Gluten Free oats
Handful Pumpkin Seeds
Handful Sunflower Seeds
2 Tablespoons Flax Seed
2 Tablespoons Sesame Seed
2 Tablespoons Hemp
2 Tablespoons Shredded Coconut
2 Tablespoons Coconut Oil
3 Tablespoons Pure Maple Syrup
Heat coconut oil and maple syrup together to make runny
Add all ingredients to a large bowl and mix – if you want the mix to be more clumpy add more maple syrup to make it stick together more.
Bake in a pre heated oven at 180deg for 10mins, mix through then bake for a further 10-15mins until golden brown.
You can use any selection of nuts, seeds and substitute the maple syrup for honey.
Funday Friday, I have been promising my friend Sarah for months that I would go a road trip with her back to her homeland in Dumfries & Galloway…
She is driving which I am excited about, so many of my other adventures I am the driver and don’t get to enjoy and experience the route in the same way.
Last week I ended up at Lindisfarne Castle (the first place the Vikings landed) which was an amazing day… the place is so peaceful and scenic, I would highly recommend the journey and will definitely visit again…
Look at a map, see what’s within your preferred driving distance, pick somewhere you have never been and go visit. You never know what treasures you are going to find.
I had an interesting conversation with one of my warrior woman personal training clients who is just going in to 6th year at school (she aced 6 Highers! I didn’t even know you could take 6 Highers…)anyway, we were talking about uni applications and she said that one of the girls in her class had lied on her application about some of her out of school activities.
This got us on to the topic of why do people lie?
People lying really shows us a lot about people and their insecurities and beliefs about themselves… They are in a place where they fear that the truth makes them not good enough.
There is also something that I have come across where people lie about lying.
Instead of relaying the story as it actually happened they fictionalise and glamorise the facts to make it sound more interesting.
Why do some people feel so insecure about the truth that they lie about lying?
We live in an age where photo’s are photo shopped, reality TV has many scenes set up for our ‘entertainment’ and if you are not No.1 then you are not good enough…
We always want everything to be perfect before we show up.
We put so much pressure on ourselves to be amazing (mostly because we are comparing our lives to the media, reality TV, and social media).
We are amazing, each and every one of us in our own fabulous and unique way.
Is there something or someone that you are pretending to be?
On a much lighter and funnier note, I went to see Bad Mom’s at the cinema, very funny. This is about a group of mum’s that are fed up of trying to be the perfect soccer mom and become wild and totally rebel against the institution…
Be the rebel, be happy in your decisions to be you.
Happy Monday, with love
An over-reaction often has nothing to do with the situation right in front of you…
How often have you completely over-reacted to something because someone or something had happened earlier in the day?
We have all been there.
The challenge for us can be how we react to the over-reaction when it is directed at us.
My example for this is:
Social media, one woman posts a photo (taken without permission) who looks really sad to shame her on social media for telling the first woman’s kids to be quiet on the train. The photographer woman wants to shame her for being a miserable passenger that should be ashamed of herself and her behaviour.
To me, there are so many things wrong with this scenario – taking and publishing someone’s photo without permission seems to be the world we live in.
Why do we step forward with judgement rather than compassion?
Stephen Covey tells the story in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People about the time he was on a train and complained to a man about his unruly kids, through that conversation he quickly learned that their mother had passed away only 1 hour before and the father really didn’t know what to do with himself…Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download
After reading that story I have taught myself to take a step back when someone is reacting to a situation to try and look at it from another perspective (I don’t always manage to stop myself, but I am getting better) so that I can react better.
If you find yourself in a situation where someone is over-reacting or reacting in a way that seems unusual for them, take a moment and a breath before reacting yourself… It could be that they are just a dick, but it could also be that something else much bigger is going on in their world and a moment of compassion from you could help change their day.
With compassionate love
I am pretty sure that I have spoken to you about the book that I am writing (if not then I am writing a book) Warrior Woman Project: The Instruction Manual When Happiness is the Ultimate Goal.
It is getting to the exciting stages now that I have sent some chapters out to very respected friends and fellow business women for feedback on the content.
Over the next 5 weeks I will be taking on board their feedback and filing in some blanks before reaching out for an editor and proof reader to fine tune it then we will be good to publish so that we will be on sale mid-December (add it to your Christmas wish list now 😉 )
The stage of being terrified has now passed and I am just getting excited now. If you are part of the 31 Days Healthier Happier group we are at day 23 now and will be restarting in a week if you want to joinhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/367489410088133/one of the days is create a happy space.
My flatmate recently moved out in to her own place (just round the corner so we can still regularly catch up) and I have reshuffled my house to create my happy spaces… I now have the spare room set up as a work space (now doing sports massage from the house if anyone is in need), the living room is a chilling, reading, listening to music/audiobooks /podcast space and the kitchen is a food space.
The energy in the house feels totally different now.
I have my spaces that are all allocated and they are not a mish mash of work in every room where I feel I can’t switch off…
I do now have an entire 2 bed house to myself so every room is my own space but if you live with other people I think it is really important for you to make a space, a corner of a room, whatever you can claim for your own and make it a space you want to hang out in. Where you can switch off, or switch on whatever you personally need…
Take the time to make your space and enjoy it…
With love this fine Tuesday
‘The person you will be in five years is based on the books you read and the people you surround yourself with today’
What are you reading?
Who do you hang around with?
I had a conversation with one of the boys in the gym last week about life in general. I am always surprised with the amount of information that people share with me.
This particular conversation the boy admitted that the people he hung around with were a bit mad (this is the best way I can write his actual description). He knew that he needed to hang out with better people so that his life would move in to a better place but he just hadn’t got there yet…
If you have been reading my emails for a while now, you may remember me telling you about my neighbour who was going to stop drinking and smoking at the new year because he was a nightmare when he drank… he is now in jail (and hadn’t ever given up drinking or smoking).
Your situation might not be as dire are some but it is a consideration. If you want to be successful in life you need to surround yourself with people who are where you want to be, they will be the ones that will help you up the ladder.
Harsh as it might be, you need to break free from the ones that are flying on your coat tails and dragging you down.
Are the books (audiobooks or podcasts) helping you grow as a person whether they are mind-set and personal development or specific to your learning needs?
This is not to say you can’t be around people that you don’t consider to be in a place you want to be or read fun stuff but there should be some balance.
You either want to stay where you are or grow… That is 100% down to you to decide and seek action and of course I am going to remind you that the Warrior Woman Project will help you…
Get started and grow with love
I feel like I am on a happier mission at the moment. I think because the Facebook group is going so well and people are messaging me to let me know how they are getting on makes me want to share it even more.
The group is not just about being happier, it’s also about being healthier and for me both can go hand in hand, when you are happier you generally make healthier decisions and being healthier helps set your mind-set making you happier.
My top tips to being healthier:
- Look at the foods you eat right now and make a healthier change to just one meal a day
- Move a bit more, take every opportunity to go some errands
- Stop beating yourself up for making the wrong decisions
- Take responsibility for your actions
- Add 1 more portion of veg to your daily intake
Going in for a full overhaul for most people is too much, it is setting yourself up for failure, and even though failing is not the end of the world, if you can make small sustainable changes it makes everything else easier.
What can you do today to be healthier that you will repeat and maintain in your life?
PS www.warriorwomanproject.com can help you work this shit out
Yesterday we looked at the little things that make your life manageable or hopefully happier…
We are starting to look at and understand that it’s the ordinary things in life that help make it extraordinary when we pay more attention to them.
What else can we do?
We can help others have a more extraordinary day in their ordinary worlds… Talk to the people that serve you, notice them and acknowledge them.
Again, in that interview with Colette she asked me when was I not living a life that I felt I was living with purpose…
When I worked as a waitress in a hotel restaurant… Never in my life have I felt so insignificant… I lasted 2 whole months, the day that broke me was Christmas Day when not one person said thanks to any of us at our station after being up at 6am to do breakfast and worked right through until 7pm serving the lunches…
Not a single thank you…
My resignation was handed in the next morning and I left a week later… My poor dad had only just moved me up to Aviemore and I was on the phone requesting him and his van return to take me home.
The biggest thing I learned there was to never ignore the waiting or serving staff… they are people too and taking those moments to acknowledge them and thank them will make a difference to their day… And they bring you food.
This connection with the people serving you is like the smile I have asked you in the past to deliver to people you walk past in the street, it’s a 2 way reciprocation they feel better for being noticed, you get to feel good for making them feel that way (even the really grumpy people will deep deep down be thankful).
Go connect, with love
PS remember you can connect with me too www.warriorwomanproject.com