A Balloon

It’s Friday, you have made it through the week… fantastic

“Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.”

 

Now, I am pretty scared of balloon’s so wouldn’t really have them as something that would cheer me up… Saying that, there is something about them that makes me smile (as long as I am at a safe distance and they can’t burst in my face).

There are many other simple things that can cheer us up, it doesn’t need to be a balloon. If you think of the simplicity of the balloon and how much joy and fun it can bring, just like a large cardboard box that the Christmas toys come in.

When we are trying to cheer ourselves up or someone else, sometimes something as simple as a smile, a hello, a hug, a mug of tea can make a big difference to their day…

Keep it simple when someone needs cheered up. Just to know that they are being thought about is likely to be enough.

If you haven’t already started today would be a really good day to start your gratitude journal to help you draw attention to the things you are grateful for that you might have started to take for granted…

Happy Friday

Jen x

Stop…

Winnie the Pooh… who would have thought we would have had a week of quotes out of him?!

“Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”

This is something that I have had to learn how to do but have mastered and now understand the power of doing nothing…

Over the Christmas holidays I read a lot, one of the books I read was by Brene Brown Daring Greatly (I highly recommend you read this book) in it she discussed how when we are in a ‘snooze you lose’ frame of mind you are less likely to be creative and innovative. When people are in a ‘winner takes all’ environment the levels of competition halt people’s desire to try something that might fail.

When you learn to stop, take time out, do nothing, think about nothing (or nothing important anyway) your creativity starts to come back in to play.

When I start to feel stressed and overwhelmed about all the things I need to get done I don’t actually get anything done. When I take some time out, all of a sudden words come to me, I have the urge to write (usually these emails and usually at 10pm when I am meant to be going to bed).

There are times when you need to just shut off from the world. If you are thinking that you don’t have time to do that, you need to trust me… You WILL be more productive when you come back. You WILL get more done and it will be better quality.

Try it… take some time out to do absolutely nothing and see how much better you are when you come back.

I am aware that many of you have just been off for Christmas holidays, but how much of that time off was actually taking time out?

Happy Thursday

Jen x

Easy, Breezy

Today… Some days we just need to take a wee break.

“It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn’t use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like ‘What about lunch?'”

Some people love to connect with fancy dialogue and jargon which is fine in some circumstances but sometimes its just nice to talk easy, simple, fun, blah, blah, blah.

You know those day’s when you head is fried and you stick on a movie or TV show that is just really easy to watch? Some days you want the deep documentary or thinkers film, but others you just need nonsense.

Shop talk can be essential, but it’s rarely fun…

‘What about lunch?’ is one line that will win most people over… and something you can try for those people that we were talking about yesterday that you might want to connect with… lunch can be quick and easy to organize and doesn’t need to be drawn out if you have other things to do… just saying…

I have gone for lunch with friends many times and it has ended up an 8 hour shift but at any time either one of us could have said we needed to go…

Find some fun, use little easy words, let your brain switch off…

Happy Wednesday

Jen x

 

It just takes one

Bringing more happiness and a different perspective on life courtesy of Winnie the Pooh… today’s quote:

“You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”

I love this quote. So many times I hear grumbles and moans that people go to networking events, nights out, parties and ‘no-one ever speaks to me’… My question is always ‘how many people did you go and speak to?’

Sometimes that question is to a friend, family member, or myself…

If we want to make friends, build relationships, build businesses, find a partner or just generally be more sociable we need to put in some of the effort.

Why should everyone else have to do all the ground work? It is a 2 way street. Maybe the other people are shy, maybe we seem unapproachable, maybe they are scared of rejection too…

If everyone waits for someone else to make the first move we are going to be an even lonelier and more disconnected society than we already are.

You can start to make connections and start to build relationships on your computer, phone, tablet but to make it count you need to meet that person in real life, have a real conversation. It’s only then will you know if you actually connect with people.

I have connected with people online before that seemed like the life and soul of the party only to meet them in real life and we really struggled to hold a conversation. On the other hand I have had very blunt conversations with people via technology only to find that they are really open, warm and great to connect with in the real world.

It takes just one person to make the first move…

Happy Tuesday

Jen x

Happy Monday

I was sent an email just before Christmas from one of my warriors with a link to some quotes she saw that made her think of me (bless!! I love that shit).  They are lessons about happiness from Winnie the Pooh (master of all happiness).

This week, being the first full full week back to normal (for those of you who didn’t have to go back to work last Monday thanks to our bonus bank holiday) I want to share some happiness with you…

I hear a lot about how depressing January is and as much as it’s meant to be all motivating and ‘new year, new you’ some of you just struggle to keep your spirits up. Especially if you have just embarked on a diet and fitness plan that you really don’t love…

Your Happy Monday:

“You can’t help respecting anybody who can spell TUESDAY, even if he doesn’t spell it right; but spelling isn’t everything. There are days when spelling Tuesday simply doesn’t count.”

Sometimes you just have to think ‘does it really matter?’ and I mean REALLY… Some things are just minor details that we let ourselves get caught up in and get annoyed by when really they are totally irrelevant.

I can get a bit angsty if the mugs are put the wrong way in the cupboard – that is my shit and it takes 2 seconds for them to be rearranged, but really the world is no different no matter where the mugs are, the same as Tuesday is still Tuesday no matter how it’s spelled.

Some things we just need to take a deep breath and let them go to make our space a happier place.

Breathe easy & stay calm.

Happy Monday

Jen x

Saturday Kitchen

Continuing with your healthy kick-start to the new year, this delicious juice is great for boosting your immune system and giving you a kick of energy.

If you don’t have a juicer, I strongly recommend investing in one. I recently got a Philips one from Amazon, easy to use, easy to clean…

1kg bag of carrots

1 lemon

1 chunk of ginger

½ teaspoon turmeric

 

Put the ½ teaspoon of turmeric straight in to the juice collecting jug

Juice the ginger, lemon then carrots in to the juice collecting jug

Give it a swoosh round to let everything mix through, and drink.

This makes me around 500-600mls of juice. If you don’t want to drink it all today, freeze half of it so it doesn’t start to ferment.

Happy Saturday

Jen x

1 down, 51 to go

Tomorrow is the 2nd ever Warrior Woman Project Workshop… This year I have made the promise to myself and commitment to my Warriors that they will become a more regular feature of 2016. We are sold out and I am delighted (and terrified) and excited all at the same time…

I know around half of the people attending and they are all bringing along someone that I don’t yet know so the pressure is on not just to deliver a fantastic workshop to the people who already know and love what I do but also inspire and impress their friends that they are bringing along.

What I have to share is a different perspective to what we already do and know. There will be some uncomfortable truths – the good news about them is we all do this stuff, we just don’t usually admit it out loud… There will be some realisations and hopefully a few lightbulb moments.

The aim of the day is to make us feel better about ourselves, give ourselves a break and learn to live a life that makes us happy.

It’s a journey that we are all on and all have room for improvement (myself included).

If you didn’t secure a space for tomorrow, don’t worry there will be more in the coming months, hopefully (technology permitting) there will be a short video from the event that I will be able to share next week…

This is now the end of your first full week in January… 1 down, 51 to go… How are you going on your goals / resolutions / visions for the future?

If you are struggling to stay on track please get in contact with me and we can have a conversation about how to get you back on track.

Have a fantastic weekend

Jen x

The art of research

Over the festive period I have been making more time to work on myself, one of the challenges that I was set was to write down 5 strengths and 5 weaknesses and ask a friend or 2 that would be brutally honest with me to do the same for me so that I can see if who I think I am is what other people see…

I am fully aware the vulnerability is something I am not good at and to be honest isn’t even something I really understand how to be (although this admission according to my research suggests that this is vulnerability, I just need to work on it and practice it on a much grander scale).

I have watched TED talks, listened to podcasts, read articles, blogs and books on the art of vulnerability.

Being strong, independent warrior women it can feel like a weakness to show vulnerability… What I am learning though is it’s not, it is in fact a great strength that we need to embrace.

Embrace your emotions, when you numb pain and sadness you also numb happiness and joy… it all happens in the same part of your brain and the distinction between positive and negative is only something that we are aware of in relation to the reaction we have to a situation, it can’t be specifically controlled.

Numbing the emotion doesn’t just come in the form of dinking / eating / smoking or whatever your vice is, ignoring it, putting a constant positive spin on everything (which I am 100% guilty of) instead of accepting and embracing it so you can deal with it and let it go.

I remember when my marriage first ended… I was ‘fine’, it was the ‘right thing to do for both of us’ and I was fine and it was the right thing to do, but I needed to feel sad about it, needed to grieve the loss of something so special to me.

For those of us that live in the West of Scotland part of our culture seems to be hide your emotions, just get on with it or have a drink, everything will be fine… Through conversations with people that work in the world of helping people (from personal development coaches through to addiction councillors to doctors) ignoring your emotions is not the answer, swallowing them down with drink, food, drugs (prescription or non) and just getting on with it is a huge cause for many of the problems we have in society today.

Imagine if all those people who are struggling just knew how many other people felt the same way that they do how much easier it would be to deal with life…

We would all feel so much better knowing that we were not alone in our struggles… In my research there was one particular blog post that I want to share with you http://heyamberrae.com/post/31470009330/power-of-vulnerability it is so well written and really stood out as one that helped me understand and I think we can all take something away from it…

Have a beautiful day

Jen x

It’s a bit of give and take

Yesterday we were looking at your level of happiness and doing things that make you happy and not other people…

I want to take this up a level, many of you will have downloaded my free 31 days of self-care which introduces you to things you can implement to your days in a simple way that look after you.

Some of the things will benefit you more on some days and not at all on others… Take meditation, I believe that it is beneficial to do daily, however, if you have a day where you sit down to meditate and it isn’t working and you are getting stressed out about not being able to relax and meditate, then leave it for that day…

Eating mindfully we should practice at every meal but if you sleep in for work and need to eat in the car on route to work then that is better than just not having anything at all…

What we need to remember the most when it comes to our happiness, is to forgive ourselves and not give ourselves such a hard time when we are not saintly… we are human, we are allowed to make mistakes, we are allowed to eat cake, we are allowed to change our mind.

If you don’t have the free eBook please hit reply and request one and I will send it over to you…

For some of us coming in to the New Year we have hit the ground running, but we still need to take care of us first. Remember, when you look after yourself as a priority you are able to give 100% all the time.

Take care of you

Jen x

 

 

 

It’s about your happiness

Many of you are starting back to work today, some started back yesterday, or maybe even over the weekend depending on what sector you work in… Either way, it’s a fresh start, fresh outlook fresh ideas… If over the weekend you were getting the fear, and this morning you are really not looking forward to going back to work,  I don’t want to state the obvious here, but you need to work out what are you going to do to change that.

What is the plan for this year? How are you going to make this a happier year? When we get to this time next year how do you want to feel? What steps can you take to make those changes?

Remember, consistency is the key thing here, it doesn’t need to be the full overhaul change when your life today looks nothing like it did yesterday, but it does need to be 1 step, even if that first step is just a thought process it is something.

Let’s make a promise to ourselves that we are going to do this for us, not to try and make someone else happy or keep someone else quiet…

It’s all for you and your happiness…

Together we can work as a team, let me know what I can do to help (wherever you are in the world, technology can make so many things possible).

Jen x