If we wait until we are ready, we will never get anything done

If we wait until we are ready we will never get anything done…

This was the mind-set I had in place when I was asked to do a video interview blog post with the Female Business Hub.

I had a conversation with the lovely Janine over there and she was telling me that they were going to start doing their Friday blogs as video’s rather than just always text content and asked if I would like to be their first interviewed guest…

I didn’t think too much about it and just said yes… If I had thought about it I would have chickened out.

Why would I chicken out?

I don’t like watching myself back, I am hugely critical of myself, the angle that my laptop camera sits is not flattering, I talk too much and too fast when I get nervous or excited and if I try to talk clearly and slowly I am monotone… the list could go on and on…

We create ourselves rules… when I am thinner I will…. When I get that job promotion… when my skin clears up… when I have learned to talk slowly and clearly… when I get my fringe cut… when I blah, blah, blah then I will… whatever the task is that you want to avoid, which will likely result in you being happier…

You can stall… but if you are anything like me, stalling will annoy you. You will get pissed off with yourself and you will start to ask why? Why did you not just take that chance? Why did you not make a start on that assignment earlier?

Why oh why, oh why?

Pick something that you usually put off and don’t think about it, just do it. We know that as soon as we start thinking too much that little negative voice starts to get louder… Let’s shut her up, turn up the volume on your inner warrior and get shit done!

If you want to check out my first ever video interview blog head over to the Female Business Hub website and check it out http://femalebusinesshub.com/entrepreneur-friday-jen-wilson/#more-1986

Have a fantastic day

Jen x

PS Remember… the workshop Sat 9th Jan 12-3pm Think Better, Feel Better, Look Better. Book your seat today https://warriorwomanproject.ticketlight.co.uk/order/gateway/13311630

Saturday Kitchen

Saturday Kitchen

It’s the weekend and after a few weeks of tofu recipes I thought it would be time for a treat… and OMG these are a treat! I found this on pinterest but as always I like to change it up a bit

Peanut Butter, Chocolate Melts

1 ¼ cups chickpeas (if they are from a can, drain them and pat them dry, I use sprouted chickpeas)

2 teaspoons vanilla extract (I used vanilla bean paste)

½ cup (heaped) peanut butter (or any nut butter of your choice)(ideally no added sugar)

¼ cup honey or maple syrup

1 teaspoon baking powder (I used bicarb soda, I still have no idea what the difference is)

Pinch of salt if your nut butter is also unsalted

½ cup dark chocolate chips (I used half a block of 85% dark chocholate and smashed it up to get roughly ½ cup of chips)

Preheat the oven to about 160deg (fan assisted)

Put everything except the chocolate chips in to your food processor and blend until you have a smooth mixture, you might need to scrape the sides to move any bits of chickpea down in to the mix

Then stir in the chocolate chips

I used a round soup spoon and spooned out around 14 balls (if you want them more like cookies, use a fork to press them down a bit)

Bake in the oven for 10 mins

Eat when warm… make sure there are people around to share them with or you will eat them all

Have a fantastic weekend

Jen

PS Remember Warrior Woman Project Workshop: Think Better, Feel Better, Look Better is on sale NOW. Only £20 and bring a friend for £5 there are still a few tickets left https://warriorwomanproject.ticketlight.co.uk/order/gateway/13311630

 

 

 

Your moment of clarity

I get asked a lot how I knew what it was I wanted to do with my life when I made my career change from working in the travel industry to working in the fitness and wellbeing industry.

I looked at my life and what I loved about it. In a moment of clarity I just knew I wanted to help people in a more meaningful way – I used to be amused at people who phoned up screaming and shouting about the fact their frequent flyer points hadn’t been added to their account at check in for their flight… I used to think if that’s their biggest worry in the world then they are doing pretty damn good. I then got to the stage that I didn’t give a shit that their points hadn’t been added and knew it was time to move on.

When you have that moment of clarity there isn’t really a way to explain it, it’s just something you know and feels right. When people question you about it, you feel you need to find reasons to justify your decision to them, but they are not the same as the feeling.

The best decisions come when you don’t even realise you are making a decision and its only afterwards that you realise what happened and that if you had thought about it there would have been hours or days of worry and thinking…

My theory is that you are going to end up where you are meant to be, the decision just dictates the route you take to get there.

This week has been very focused on not focusing, just letting things happen in a forward motion sometimes with some back steps and side steps but that is all ok.

This is coming from someone who has been very analytical and planning and organising but has discovered that if you just let go, things still happen and they happen with a lot less stress.

I would love to hear your experiences of this, so please, please share them with me

Have a lovely Friday

Jen x

PS Remember Warrior Woman Project Workshop: Think Better, Feel Better, Look Better is on sale NOW. Only £20 and bring a friend for £5 there are still a few tickets left https://warriorwomanproject.ticketlight.co.uk/order/gateway/13311630

 

 

 

Bring down the noise

Yesterday we were looking at your internal focus and what prevents us from hearing and feeling it… So, what do you do to turn down the internal noise?

Remember, there are no rules…

Just some ideas (this list in not exclusive and you don’t need to do all of them, you need to find what works for you):

  • Meditation
  • Yoga
  • Pilates
  • Running
  • Walking
  • Cycling
  • Swimming
  • Mind maps with to do lists
  • Taking a bath/shower
  • Getting out of your usual space
  • Writing
  • Listening to music (that makes you feel calm)

Whatever it is you choose to do, the aim of the game is to quiet the noise in your head to allow you to feel / listen to your gut instincts, when you do that your life decisions happen organically and you get clarity.

Try out some of the ideas or if you have something you like to do, I would love to hear about it (just hit reply to email me)

Have a beautiful Thursday

Jen x

PS Remember Warrior Woman Project Workshop: Think Better, Feel Better, Look Better is on sale NOW. Only £20 and bring a friend for £5 there are still a few tickets left https://warriorwomanproject.ticketlight.co.uk/order/gateway/13311630

 

You listen but you can’t hear a thing

This week I am on a bit of an internal focus, follow your gut, instincts, intuition, angels whatever you want to call it.

Something that I experience and I know everyone else does too is that sometimes it can be hard to feel that internal focus. This happens particularly when we are stressed, really busy, have other people offering their opinions and advice and / or your negative internal voice is really loud.

How many genius ideas, thoughts, and memories have you had in the shower / in yoga / meditating /driving or doing some other distracting activity where you are not thinking?

I know that if I sit down to write my emails if my head is thinking of other things then the emails are either crap or they don’t happen at all…

That can be when the procrastination kicks in.

** side note just when I am talking about procrastination, I will be doing a FREE webinar in December we will be looking at the different levels of procrastination, why we do it, what it is we are avoiding and how to face fear. Watch out for how to register for that coming soon**

How many times have you been speaking to someone and your head is racing, thinking about your to do list, about what someone else said to you earlier, what you need to get from the supermarket and all of a sudden you have no idea what the person in front of you has just said?

Or sometimes you are trying to listen but their words all seem to sound jumbled up and you can’t make sense of what they are telling you, even though what they are saying is total sense?

You hear a noise but you don’t hear anything.

We need to learn (and train ourselves) to move away from the bad thoughts, from the stress, from the noise (internal and external). It is when you park the nonsense your thoughts become clear and you can hear again.

I am going to leave you with those thoughts for today…

Happy humpday

Jen x

PS Remember Warrior Woman Project Workshop: Think Better, Feel Better, Look Better is on sale NOW. Only £20 and bring a friend for £5 there are still a few tickets left https://warriorwomanproject.ticketlight.co.uk/order/gateway/13311630

 

 

The number 1 rule is…

The rule is… There are no rules

That statement in itself is very liberating (for me anyway) mostly because I don’t like to get in to trouble.

I have come across this statement a few times recently… in business planning and marketing, in building relationships (romantic and platonic) diet and nutrition plans and dealing with people in general.

There are of course many people who tell you that if you follow their plan to the letter you will earn X amount of millions of pounds or you will drop a dress size in a week or you will find the man/woman of your dreams or whatever it is they are trying to sell you…

And that is fine, their system worked for them but that is not to say it will work for you…

How many different diet books, programmes, systems are there on sale and new ones popping up weekly?!

Having an outline to follow is good for many people, but listening to your gut instincts will take you further and to the right place in a much faster time.

Know and understand your values, and pay attention to how you feel, go with the feeling.

If you have an idea that you want to pursue as a business, go for it, if it fails, so what, at least you will know and if it flies then that is amazing.

If you went on a date and really enjoyed it and want to text the person to tell them, do it, don’t wait the 2-3 days so you don’t seem too keen (if they don’t like that, then they weren’t the one for you anyway).

If you want to eat cake all day every day, then do that… just don’t expect to be healthy or happy in the long term.

You should never feel guilty for following a feeling…

Happy Tuesday

Jen x

PS Remember Warrior Woman Project Workshop: Think Better, Feel Better, Look Better is on sale NOW. Only £20 and bring a friend for £5 there are still a few tickets left https://warriorwomanproject.ticketlight.co.uk/order/gateway/13311630

 

Inside Out

I love listening to people talk about their life story, and hear other people’s view of the world. Recently I was at a business networking event and one of the women presenting said something that really struck a chord with me…

‘We experience life from the inside out’

What she meant by that was that our thoughts are what change, not the external event. Let’s take your working life as an example. Some days you can wake up to your day and think ‘oh my god, I don’t know how I am going to get through this day…’ another day you can wake up and think ‘this is the best thing that has ever happened to me, this is amazing, I am amazing, I feel totally blessed’ and on another day you can wake up and feel nothing in particular and you go through the motions of your day.

None of these things are conscious thoughts or feelings, they are what you awaken with and then what you choose to move through your day with.

I have mentioned before about the 90 second emotion, after 90 seconds an emotion will have passed unless your conscious mind chooses to hold on to the emotion…

So, when you wake and notice how you feel, how do you choose to proceed with your day?

This would be when doing your morning pages and your gratitude journals would come in handy to help you clear any negative thoughts or let you work out what is going on and change your focus to a more positive place.

Just something for you to ponder over this fine Monday morning

Jen x

PS Remember Warrior Woman Project Workshop: Think Better, Feel Better, Look Better is on sale now £20 tickets and bring a friend for £5 there are still a few tickets left https://warriorwomanproject.ticketlight.co.uk/order/gateway/13311630

Saturday Kitchen

Spicy Scrambled Tofu

Yes, I am still on my tofu recipes mission…

This used to be one of my favourite go to tofu meals and I as I write this I realised I haven’t had it for AGES… I stopped eating bread for a while and didn’t miss it so haven’t really gone back to it… but now I remember about this recipe… its coming back on my menu!

1 block pressed tofu (just from the packet, you don’t need to press it anymore unless you want to)

1 teaspoon curry powder ( I like the garam masala blend)

Chilli powder (to your taste)

Pinch salt

Pinch pepper

½ teaspoon turmeric

2 slices of toast (I like a nice wholegrain seed bread)

Handful spinach

Tablespoon oil (olive, coconut, almond, sesame or whatever you like best)

 

In a bowl put tofu, curry powder, chilli powder, salt, pepper, turmeric and mash together with a fork to create your scramble

Toast your bread

In a frying pan heat your oil then add the mashed tofu, move around so it doesn’t stick to the pan and let heat through (2-3 minutes)

When your toast is ready put it on a plate, add the spinach on top of your toast then the scrambled tofu on top of the spinach.

Just on writing out this recipe, you could probably add the spinach to the tofu if you prefer your spinach cooked – I have never tried this option so it will be your trial and error.

 

I have a secret to tell you…

I have a secret to tell you…

Lots of people say to me Jen, you really have it together, I wish I was as organised and as sure of what I wanted to do with my life as you…

Do you know what?

Half the time I have no idea what I am doing… I am just winging it and hoping for the best.

I make decisions all the time with zero idea if it’s the right one.

What I do know though is that I am heading in the right direction in life, what I want is to help people. I want women to understand who they are, realise their potential and have the balls to go after what they want in life and not feel guilty about it.

If I can do it, and for those of you who know / remember my story; I wasn’t interested in school, didn’t really want to be there, hardly spoke out, I daydreamed a lot, picked my college course based on the fact we got taken to Tenerife for a week at the end of the year, took a gap year that pretty much lasted 8 years and am divorced with a whole lot of other bits and pieces in amongst that…

We all have stuff going on that makes us doubt ourselves, the difference is whether you let that stuff rule you and hold you back or you use it to motivate you and ask for help, seeking out mentors and coaches that will take you to the next level.

The other half of the time I look up to my coaches and mentors for help and guidance. Outside of that I go with my gut and hope for the best, hoping that the universe is actually taking control and it will guide me to where I need to be (that would be God or whatever belief system you have).

An important lesson that I have learned in the last 5 years is that I can’t control everything that is going on in my world, the only thing that I can control is how I react to what is going on. Sometimes I get the reaction completely wrong, but other times I get it completely right…

Letting go of control was not easy for me to do, and there are still days, hours, minutes that I struggle, but when I do everything turns out okay… more often, even better than I could have made it…

So my advice to you today… learn to let go and just wing it some of the time.

Happy free Friday

Jen x

 

Lost identity

I was talking with someone the other day about the Warrior Woman Project and how it came about and we were discussing my story.

The thing that I often forget (because a lot has happened over the last 5 years) is a conversation I had with my NLP coach about 4 years ago.

When my marriage ended I felt lost, scared and really overwhelmed. I had no idea who I was because for the previous 7½ years I had been part t of a 2, I had been a girlfriend then a wife and all of a sudden I was catapulted back to being an individual and I didn’t know how I fitted in to the world or who I was supposed to be.

After quite a bit of work I discovered that I was still me, I had never actually gone, I had just forgotten that I was me and all that had changed was that my best friend wasn’t there anymore and I had to face the world standing alone.

Losing your identity or falling in to a role; student, employee, girlfriend, wife, mum, singleton… whatever it is, you are still you at the core of that.

Sometimes the lines get foggy as you put more and more people’s needs ahead of your own. The thought of putting your needs first makes you feel selfish and uncaring…

What you need to remember though is you are being uncaring to yourself and you are you, your body, your soul for all of your life…

As hard as it can be to get your head around learning that it’s okay to be selfish and putting yourself first actually helps the people around you even more. You become an excellent role model, you are happier, you have more to give because you are not exhausted all the time, you are the best version of you.

When I did an interview with the Female Business Hub recently Janine pointed out to me that I say a lot that I just want to help. I do just want to help you all realise who you are, you are in there, you are just under a pile of selfless helping others and we just need to uncover that through a bit of selfish (in the most positive way) searching.

If you want to arrange a FREE call to start talking about who you are or who you want to be I have a couple of spaces left for arranging calls. All you need to do is head over to www.warriorwomanproject.com and complete the form at the bottom of the page and we will arrange the call.

Have a fantastic Thursday

Jen x