Take some power back

Being ‘in power’ of your thoughts is freedom.

I got this emailed to be the other day…

‘I am finding your newsletters really helpful and feel much more ‘in power’ of what must be done in order to see results no longer see it as depriving myself but more of gaining a better me. Actually think I can do it this time!’

Taking control lets you worry less and live more.

Worrying doesn’t solve any problems. If anything worrying just makes them worse, your imagination runs away from you thinking the worst.

My friend Maria put it really well the other day, one tiny thought gets out of control in your head, next thing you know you have a starring role in Eastenders!

When something is out of your control, there is nothing you can do.

I remember once when I went for a massage, I forgot to put money in the meter, remembered half way through my massage… My choice: worry about if I had a ticket, or enjoy my massage and deal with the situation when I got back to my car.

At the end of the day I had forgotten to put money in so if I had a ticket it was my own fault. Thankfully I didn’t get a ticket and worrying about it would have done nothing but ruin Suze’s good work.

When something is in your control, do the best you can to sort it – and that usually comes down to your thoughts and how you react to it.

Do what makes you happy. Take control of your actions. Live for the moment. Take chances.

Believe what happens is meant to happen.

Jen x

 

 

We Are Warrior Women And You Can Be To

We can all be that person that we really don’t like.

Needy, insecure, when we look at where we are and where we are heading thinking ‘really?? Is this it? Is this what I get up every morning for?’ Or you are waiting for Prince Charming to save you / a lottery win / miracle to happen (delete as appropriate).

Bad news, no one can save you but you, even with all the money in the world you won’t be happy unless you change inside and miracles are down to you to make them happen.

I get you have become so blind sighted and overwhelmed that you have disconnected with your dreams (maybe people were telling you that they were ridiculous, to get your head out the clouds or your head is full of broken biscuits – you don’t listen to them when they are talking sense so why listen to that crap?)

Your lack of self-belief at the moment has made you so unenthusiastic about life that you numb the pain with a ‘wee glass of wine to help you wind down’ at the end of the day then the bottle or 3 at the weekend because you are ‘letting your hair down and having fun’ until you feel like you are going to die when you wake up in the morning and start the whole depressing routine again the following week.

This lack of self-respect and self-belief gives you the validation to give up at the first hurdle and you promise to your self (lie) that you are going to start on Monday… You just don’t commit to a specific Monday.

This fake version of you is wearing you down, you are exhausted emotionally and physically (it’s hard work being someone that you’re not) all you want to do is scream, stamp your feet, have a cry, run away and start again. All you need to do is drop the bullshit and be the real you (I shit you not, it’s easier than you think).

How are your relationships? Partner? Family? Friends? Colleagues? We already know your relationship with yourself is strained. How much genuine laughter and fun happens with these people? How well do you communicate with them? Do you feel confident and sexy around your partner? Do you avoid family events because all you do is fight? Do your friends bring the best out of you? Do you work well with your colleagues leading and being lead?

Imagine you can get up tomorrow and just be you, the real genuine version of you, no mask, no kidding on, no dutch courage, just the cool, calm, sexy, independent you.

Maybe when you go to work you are the confident, strong, leader that communicates exactly what you need to communicate and gets it all done. People look up to you and respect you. There is no reason that all those positive attributes can’t walk out the door with you at the end of the day and transfer across the rest of your life.

Or do you not like who you are at work? Maybe that version of you is cold, hard, unemotional and demanding when really you are a warm, fuzzy, easy going lovable ball of emotion just desperate to hug someone and tell them to lighten up.

The first step to being a Warrior Woman is understanding who YOU are. What makes you tick, sets your ass on fire with excitement and gets you jumping out your bed in the morning feeling alive and ready to take on whatever the universe has to throw at you.

It could be that you already have found what you want in life through your work and you just need to find a way to cross that confidence, strength, passion, resilience over in to your personal life.  Or you have this hobby that just makes you feel free, calm, grounded and connected with that part of your world and you need to find a way to take that to your working life.

How good would it feel to be secure about who you are and what you see in the mirror that you inspire the people around you, you support them to be their genuine selves. You will be open to attracting the right people and the right things in to your life. I know that when I wasn’t being my genuine self I attracted some right nutters in to my world.

If you can be honest with yourself about what it is you want, you will be that fearless, badass that can independently go forward, being better every time.

In your genuine self, you will be able to openly communicate with the people around you.

In your genuine self, you will wake up enthusiastic about the day ahead.

In your genuine self, you are living passionately, with integrity and freedom.

All Warrior Women want to be free, free from the negative bullshit that holds us back.

We need to stop with the nonsense.

Just tell yourself ‘Fuck it! I can do this, I can be me, it’s over, I have had enough, I wan to be me NOW, not who other people think I should be’.

I am a Warrior Woman!

Now you want to know HOW you can be a Warrior Woman.

There are 3 levels of Warrior

Ultimate Warrior Woman

The Ultimate Warrior Woman Project (You have no time to waste, you want to get it done, one to one, me and you sorting shit out). This is an application only project, I only take on a few Ultimate Warrior Women each year for this 90 day project, its for women who are no excuses, don’t want to waste time, are ready to take the trampoline assisted leap. One to one fast track to freedom covering it all, your head, your body (yes that will be exercise) and your nutrition (you have no idea how much will change when you start to eat right).

To submit your application please click on this link>>  https://warriorwomanproject.wufoo.com/forms/ultimate-warrior-woman/

Warrior Woman One to One

The next level is a slower paced 120 day project Warrior Woman One to One Project, it’s for women who still want it all but want more time to absorb and take smaller steps but feel they would benefit from one to one time. We still cover head, body and nutrition just at a less intense pace.

To submit your application please click on this link>>  https://warriorwomanproject.wufoo.com/forms/warrior-woman-one-to-one-project/

Or, if you have more time and would rather be part of a group there is the class which I recommend that you join for a minimum of 3 months to get the full benefit.

Warrior Woman Project

This is where it all started Warrior Women Project, this is where we work together as a group. Your weekly class where we work together through group discussion (yes you need to speak to other people) for the first half of the class and the second half we work through your body (yes exercise, sometimes its relaxation).

When: Saturdays, 11am-12pm

Where: SDTA, 101 Park Rd, Glasgow, G4 9JE (Just behind the Stand Comedy Club at the end of Woodlands Rd).

How much: £40 per month

What’s included: weekly class, VIP Facebook group for continual support, equipment (your own mat, tennis ball for mobilisation, resistance band), weekly tasks, notebook, pen, a whole lot of support to find the genuine you and your freedom.

To book:




Pilates You Say… What Is That?

Pilates You Say… What Is That?

When you say Pilates to people you get a few different responses… ‘What is that?’, ‘Oh, that’s like Yoga!’, ‘that’s just lying on a mat stretching’, ‘that’s for old people’, ‘that’s a woman’s class’, ‘I tried that once, didn’t like it, it wasn’t hard enough’.

I teach it a bit differently. I combined my knowledge and experience of working with people to create a class that’s ‘fun’, well what I call it, and they laugh (sometimes) and they swear (more than they laugh).

It’s not just for women, half the class are men. It’s not for old people, if you wait till you are old then you might already be leaking out pee and let’s face it, no one want’s to be around someone that smells of pee.

Start young and you will have a trampoline proof pelvic floor.

Boy’s and girls, you will improve the quality of the sex you are having.

Sort your posture now and you will be walking like an Amazonian model. No one want’s the old person’s hump back, and if you have already started to get  that a bit we can work on fixing it.

Everyone who sits at a desk or in a car all day will have a tight lower back, tight hips and probably tight hamstrings… Yip, we work on that too.

If you are still not sure and fancy coming along to try, get in touch for a free taster session or if you want to secure a space now you can book below.

When: Saturday, 10am – 11am

Where: SDTA, 101 Park Rd, Glasgow, G4 9JE (Just behind The Stand Comedy Club at the end of woodlands Rd)

Cost: £40 per month

Whats included: Weekly class, your own mat, tennis ball and resistance band, a whole lot of fun.

To Book:




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Prefer one to one Pilates instead of group training? Just get in contact to discuss options either email jen@freedomintraining.co.uk or call/text 07875036659

Who the hell is Freedom In Training?

I have never been someone who sticks at things that she hates doing. My philosophy is Life is Too Short for that shit.

Don’t get me wrong, I have done jobs that I hated just to pay the bills and stayed in a relationship or too way longer than I should have.

You have to try things to see if you like them. Finding your passion for most of us is about trial and error. There are very few who are born knowing what they want to do with their life.

Some things in life you just need to suck it up and get on with, like school, I hated school. I wasn’t delighted to be there, but I went and did the best I could uninspired and unmotivated, doing what I was told because I don’t like to get in to trouble.

I had no idea what to do with my life when I left school, so I picked the college course that interested me the most – Travel & Tourism. This was mostly down to the fact that there was an ‘educational’ at the end of the year. Yip, that’s right, I made my first big life decision based on going on holiday.

I loved that year at college, so much, that I got Student of the Year (not too shabby for someone who hated school and scraped through with 1 higher). That year took me in to a career in travel that spanned almost 15 years. I got to go and live in Greece and Gran Canaria then took off to live in Australia having travelled through quite a lot of Europe, South East Asia, China, Mongolia & Russia.

Somewhere towards the end of that 15 years, I realised that my passion wasn’t in working in the travel industry. I love travelling but that is about where my love affair with it ends. Booking people on 2 week all inclusive holidays to Benidorm or domestic business flights to London just didn’t get me excited.

The excitement was in fitness, in the gym. Anyone that gets up at 445am to be in the gym for 530am to be in a spin class at 6am seriously needs their head read or is in love with fitness. It took me a couple of years to work out how I was going to get my foot in the door and a couple of attempts at finding my road in.

Membership sales was NOT for me. Standing on the street in the middle of Sydney’s Bondi Junction, trying to get people’s phone numbers to take them on a tour of the gym was hell on earth. I lasted 3 weeks then walked out the day before my 30th Birthday. There was no way I was starting a new decade of my life doing something that stressed me out so much that I had a constant pain in my chest. The life was being sucked out of me, until I pulled my big girl pants on and sassy walked my ass out of there.

I got on a flight to China, got the train from China to Russia to fly back to the UK (I will always love travelling) and in to college to learn about this health and fitness stuff. That not being enough of course I signed up for as many courses as I could afford to build as much knowledge as I could.

I had found it, my passion, the thing that made me work 7 days a week, all day in college then working until 9 or 10pm at night, studying or on courses all weekend. I embraced any opportunity to get experience and learn from others in the industry.

5 years down the line I completed a degree in sport and exercise science and postgrad diploma in teaching adult learners under my belt. Business ventures tried and failed. Relationships came and went. Lots of lessons were learned and a LOT of fun is being had.

I have freedom now that I know what I am passionate about. I can explore the different avenues open to me. I want to reach out to as many people as possible to help them find their freedom. I keep learning, I keep sharing.

If you follow my emails you will know that every day I try to teach you something or point you in the direction of making your life better, happier, getting you away from the bad weeks. Someone recently said to me ‘you know you have bad weeks, then you have really bad weeks…’ These days I don’t have bad weeks, and if I do I focus on the positive stuff that came out of them.

Love me or hate me for it, it’s how I get through life. I’m your happy go lucky ray of fucking sunshine. I have had more than my fair share of shit thrown at me. I have had massive losses in love, life, friendships, and finances. But I have also had massive gains, and those gains will always outweigh the loss.

You have 2 choices in this life, stay down when you get knocked down and be a victim. Or, stand up, straighten your crown and fight on fearlessly.

I want you to find your sassy pants and wear them with pride. I want you to find your inner Warrior (check out my Warrior Woman Project http://freedomintraining.co.uk/warrior-woman-project/ ). I want you to find your passion. I want you to find your freedom.

Jen x

After Eight Chocolate Milkshake – Healthy(ish)

After Eight Chocolate Milkshake – Healthy(ish)

I have never been a fan of chocolate milk or hot chocolate, I always find the shop bought ones too sweet.

This wee recipe though is amazing and is on the healthier side.

soak 2 tablespoons chia seeds in 1 cup of unsweetened milk of choice at room temp for 20mins (I used homemade almond milk).

blend that, with 1 cup coconut milk  (you can use any milk of choice and could use 1 cup frozen milk or ice cream type if you want it thicker)

2 tablespoons cacoa or cocoa,

1 tablespoon honey

1/8 tspn peppermint essence

Serve and enjoy

This recipe serves 2, but to be honest I enjoyed it too much and drank the lot.

Do more for you

I was reading a blog a while back that was talking about bringing up kids and about things the author believes we should never say to kids when you are bringing them up or coaching them, teaching them or being around them and influencing them.

His list was this:

  1. No
  2. Don’t Run (or Don’t Cry)
  3. Clean Your Plate
  4. Be Good At Everything
  5. You Get What You Get

 

Now my first thought was, OK… but what about yourself? How often do you say these things to yourself? How much do they hold you back? How do they make you feel about yourself? How much pressure do you put on yourself?

We need to stop being mean to ourselves (and the kids of course) and start giving ourselves a break.

 

The article then went on to talk about the things you should be saying to kids on a regular basis:

 

  1. Yes
  2. Have Fun
  3. I Love You
  4. You Can Do It
  5. I Am Proud Of You

Now, how often do you tell yourself any of these? How much would this push you forward? How much better would you feel? How much less stressed would you feel? How much happier would you be?

Copy the list of what you should be saying and keep it somewhere you can see it. Make a conscious effort to say these things more often. (Maybe not yes to cake every day and not no to stuff that doesn’t make you happy – remember you have goals).

Try it for a day, see how you get on (set reminders on your phone, have pop ups come up on your screen on the computer, whatever you need to remind yourself.

Who actually cares?

So did you do go on a solo date yet?

How did it make you feel?

If not, why not?

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu

Worrying about what other people think holds us back from what we want to do.

How do you know what it is they are actually thinking?

Unless they actually tell you, then you are just making that shit up in your head. And the crap you dream up is WAY off mark (true story).

Pretty much guaranteed they are thinking about themselves, what they are having for dinner or cake (unless it’s a dude then they will be thinking about sex).

I used to do everything on a whim, not think about what anyone else thought, or even worry about the outcome.  If you don’t try how will you know? That took me to living in Greece, Spain, Australia, I even got married not questioning it one bit (best way if I am honest, if there is doubt chances are its not the right one – do take proper further advice on this though, I do not want to be responsible for hearts being wrongly broken all over the place).

Life was so much easier and way more interesting. My head was calm, unquestioning, innocent you could even say. Why would it not work? Why would I stay in this place when it might be better over there?

You make a few mistakes, get burned a couple of times, heartbroken and all of a sudden you overthink everything.  Question your judgement and decisions. You get scared. You start to worry ‘what if’ and then stop doing things. What if I don’t want to stay in the next country I try? What if I don’t ask the right questions? What if I get a broken heart again?

Blah, blah, blah. Recently I have been seeking out how to relax my thoughts a bit. 3 firewalks, many NLP sessions, meditation, exercise, yoga and I am in a much better place than I was 4 years ago. I am currently working my way around different meditation centres trying to find the one that is good for me. I have defo noticed a difference.

(Tip, there is a TED talk online that talks about how physiology has a massive effect on your stress and confidence hormones, standing in the Wonder Woman pose for 2 minutes a day will have a physiological change on your confidence. One of my Warrior Women has been trying it and she is blown away and slightly terrified at how effective it has been. Feet shoulder width apart, hands on hips (like wonder woman) and breathe for 2 minutes) I need to add this in to my life.

I have started to take more chances, I am engaging with more people, putting myself in to (safe) situations that I would normally shy away from, I am open to more ideas and trying new things. As of 17th Jan 2015 when I am writing this, I am on 10 day of 1 new thing each day and I am LOVING it. Don’t get me wrong some of these things are pretty small – driving my new car in the snow, telling my mum I was getting a new tattoo before I actually got it (that was quite big actually) to big things like going along to a singles social event all by myself.

I have stopped worrying about what people think as much as I used to. I do remember the first time I went to the cinema by myself, I was worried about what other people would think. The worst thing about it was wanting to make a comment about something in the film and realising there was no one to actually say it to. I now prefer to go alone so I don’t talk.

Even if someone was being critical or judging you… Does it really matter? It’s one person’s opinion.

How would things change for you if you didn’t even consider what other people were thinking about? How free would you feel now worrying about what other people think? How much more would you do and say? I do sometimes say something then think after, ‘really, did I just say that?’

What would it take for you to stop considering what other people might be thinking and just go ahead and do what you want?

Give it a go, just even for a couple of hours, you never know, you might like it.

Solo dates and fun stuff

For quite a while now on Sundays I have been trying to do different things with my day. I am expanding my culture and experiences to develop me as a person.

I have been to the Art Galleries, the Transport Museum, Gallery of Modern Art, walked up Conic Hill, been climbing, to movies at the GFT…

Some of them I have done with friends, some on my own.

How often do you do things outside of your normal routine?

Do you ever go off and do stuff on your own? Taking time out by yourself.

I love spending time alone. Pottering, writing, reading, people watching, thinking about things, thinking about nothing.

I totally believe that you NEED to be comfortable doing things on your own.

It’s even more than comfortable, but happy & content. There is nothing more freeing and empowering than liking your own company.

People have more respect for you when they see that you are independent, weirdly it makes people want to hang out with you more.

Why do people want to hang out with you more? Because you display good, strong values and they see that they can learn from you.

If you are someone who isn’t comfortable on their own, like as soon as you are left alone the first thing you do is grab your phone and start texting, checking Facebook/ twitter or reading your emails.

Learn to not do that.

Your challenge for this week, if its something you are not good at.

Be alone, no phone for comfort. Go somewhere, do something different.

Go to a museum, coffee shop (you can take a book to read, but don’t use social media if you have your kindle/ipad/tablet to read, it must be a book), go for a walk, go for dinner, go on a day trip (the city tour buses are always good).

Let me know what you are doing for your challenge.

Fo and push yourself to do something outside your comfort zone.

Jen x

Are you cheating?

Why is it when we want to look better we obsess about what we can and can’t eat.

There are a band of people that live for their cheat day just so they can eat or drink whatever they want.

There is little or no focus on WHY it is they are cutting their cheat day food and drink out.

I was reading a blog post the other day about vegetarians and vegetarianism in general, and about how they are so good at sticking to their chosen diet.

Up until about 3 months ago not a single piece of meat has passed my lips since 2005 (I had a notion to try fish, one small bite which took me about half an hour to work up to trying, pointless… still don’t want to eat it).

The question is why is it that vegetarians can stick to their diets so well without wanting to ‘cheat’?

It comes down to their VALUES and personal beliefs. Whether it’s about animal welfare / cruelty, environmental issues, or whatever their reason is, they don’t sway.

The values are set.  It’s their belief and they stick to it. It’s not even up for discussion.

Their diet is not based around trying to lose weight or look better naked.

There is not even any temptation.

Why is it then for so many other people who do want to lose weight and look better in the buff that they feel hard done to by giving up certain food that they know makes them feel like shit?

If you missed my email on how to work out what your values are you can read it again here >>> click on the link>>> http://freedomintraining.co.uk/just-worst-advice-ever-2

Now, I am thinking, if you understand your values, and know WHY you want to look and feel better you won’t feel like you are being hard-done to when you ditch the shit food & drink??

You won’t be relying on willpower to help you resist temptation… There will be no temptation just like for a vegetarian.

The food industry are only interested in 1 thing… Profit. They put food out there with chemicals that they know you will be addicted to so you buy more.

Then they produce the diet version for you to get addicted to while you are trying to lose weight from the other crap that makes you so happy but so unhappy at the same time.

Ever had that reaction to steak and salad? A plate of roast veggies? A bowl of porridge?

No, me neither…

Ever eaten a packet of sweets, got the sugar buzz, then the sicky feeling crash that makes you want more sugar to take the edge of the sugar comedown off?

Yeah, me too…

I know which feeling I prefer and it ain’t the sugar comedown.

Understand and live by your values and use them in all areas of your life.

All of a sudden life gets a whole lot easier.

When you have a dilemma, think about what fits better with your values.

Bingo, decision made.

Just something for you to have a think about if you are struggling with the thought of cutting things out.

It doesn’t need to be about willpower… It can be about your personal values.

For those of you that follow me on any of the social media outlets or through my emails you will know that about 8 weeks ago I started a gluten free vegan plan, at first I missed macaroni cheese, Greek yogurt, chocolate, ice-cream…

Over Christmas I have had bread, chocolate and ice-cream and my body was not happy, spots, eczema, bloating, smelly farts… It’s really not been worth it, so I am back to gluten free vegan.

Sometimes the things that you think are lovely wee treats aren’t what you thought you remembered them.

Jen x

 

 

 

 

 

Ready, steady, GO

Ready… Steady… GO!

How do you know when you are ready? What is it you are going to be ready for?

“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.” Dr House (Hugh Laurie)

Why do you need to be ready? Will you ever be ready?

Or are you using it as an excuse to stall because you are afraid?

What is it you are afraid of? The unknown? Change? Being happy? It not working out? Failing? Moving on? Life being better?

Someone once told me, that to be successful you need to be in a risk taking mind-set.

You need to be prepared to make something different to get a positive change.

How will you know if you don’t try?

If you keep doing everything the same, you are going to get the same results. Makes sense really…

But if you are not loving it, and just going through the motions of life, then you are missing out BIG time.

Taking risks is hard, and things don’t always turn out how you planned or hoped, but a change does happen. Things don’t stay the same.

If you wait till tomorrow, is that going to be better? Not really. All you have done is delay everything by 24hrs.

What if tomorrow comes and you have missed the opportunity?

If you wait till tomorrow that is 1 less day to hit your goal meaning you will have to work that bit harder to catch up.

I read a book called The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, some of it was a bit too out there even for me, but the concept of not living in the past or living in the future but living in the present moment makes sense.

From the past we learn lessons. We learn what not to eat because it makes us feel shitty and put on weight. We learn some people are just dicks and there is nothing we can do about that but move on.

For the future all we can do is prepare for it, we take the lessons from the past, let go of the pain, take risks to make us happy now which will set us up for the future.

You have your goal – lets say its weight loss. Eating shit food and sitting on your arse thinking about it in the now is not going to prepare you for success in the future.

In the now you need to make choices, eat for your health, move more, do fun stuff so that a side effect of that will be a healthy weight and a happier life.

What do you need to do RIGHT NOW to make your life better?

Now is as good a time as any…

Ready…. Steady… GO!

Jen x