Look at yourself like you are a stranger

I love to spend the day as a tourist.

Recently I went on the hop on hop off tourist bus.

It’s amazing the things you don’t notice when you are going about your everyday life.

Looking at the city from different perspective really lets you see the beauty, culture and diversity that we have here…

How many times do you look at yourself from a different perspective?

Have you ever caught sight of yourself in a reflection or photograph that maybe you weren’t expecting to see and though wow, look at her, she looks amazing, then realised you were looking at yourself?

How did that make you feel?

It makes a change from when you look at yourself and think your roots need done, you’re looking a bit bloated, wrinkles are starting to show, you wished you had bigger/smaller boobs/ass/thighs.

Why is it easier to look and identify the flaws when that makes us feel like shit?

Why not look for the good? Identify the bits you like, and feel better about yourself straight away.

I want you to have a look in the mirror. Write down 5 things that you like about yourself today. Put it somewhere that you will see it for the rest of the day.

Then, tonight I want you to do the same again but another 5 things that are different. It doesn’t need to be all physical things, it can be about who you are as a person.

If you are reading this at night then do 5 tonight and 5 in the morning.

A brilliant video about how we see ourselves >>> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpaOjMXyJGk

Watch it, it is so powerful, one of the girls at the end nails it

‘we spend too much time trying to fix the things that aren’t quite right, instead we should spend more time appreciating the things we do like’

Let me know how you feel tomorrow

Jen x

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Your sexy, but maybe don’t know it

If you asked me if I thought I was sexy, or could explain what that felt like, I would be clueless.  Most women would probably tell you the same thing.

Are you sexy?

I came across a podcast that defined traits that every woman should have that will make her sexy… Good news girls, it’s not botox, fake boobs and shorts that your arse hangs out the back of.

Being sexy is not about how you look, it’s all about your character, what’s inside, what you have going on and in line with your values and how you portray yourself.

The 10 traits that were mentioned on the podcast are:

  1. Independence – being able to financially support yourself, let a man buy you a gift if he wants, just don’t be needy and relying on him to pay for everything for you. Have your job / career / business and make it work for you so you can buy what you want when you want without permission. At the same time he needs to be financially independent too, NEVER fund someone else. And don’t be stuck in a relationship or situation because of finances.
  2. Get your shit together – Being financially independent, living your passion, have hobbies and a purpose outside of your career and outside of any relationship. You need to have a life of your own. There is nothing worse than waiting around for a man to make your life more interesting. This goes for guys too, running around after someone else like a needy puppy is not an attractive trait to have.
  3. Not needing to be in a relationship – Life is for living, not waiting for someone else. Don’t hold on to the past where you might have been hurt in another relationship. But don’t fill a gap with a boy just for the sake of having someone there. If you are constantly going out and only looking for love or attention from the opposite (or same sex if that’s your thing) it can come across as desperate & needy. Don’t make it a priority to who you are. Relationship should complement your life not complete it. Wait for the right person. In a relationship you should not be dependent on the other person (Cause you have your shit together)
  4. Kick deadlines to the kirb – Your biological clock is NOT ticking… being over 30 is not old. When did you genuinely start living?? Your 20’s were fun, but let’s face it your done with that. Your 30’s is about finding the real you and living life. Work on yourself first, get hobbies, interests outside of work and life a FULL and interesting life.
  5. Stay classy – how you dress, how you act, how you handle yourself on a night out… our teenage years were for falling about drunk. No one wants to hang about with that person that can’t handle their drink / themselves. Dress for your age and body shape, look in the mirror, and ask a friend that you know will be honest. Have high standards for yourself and expect nothing less from anyone else in your life.
  6. Stop seeking attention – Whether it’s your social media feed or how you act in public, attention seekers come across as desperate. Measure your self-worth on personal success and the people you have around you.
  7. Be nurturing – be caring, loving, loyal. Be compassionate but stand up for yourself with confidence. When you are stressed it’s easy to be bitchy and irrational. Smile more (genuine smiles though, forced ones just look creepy).
  8. Don’t play games – if a man likes you he will like you for you… if you want to call or text the next day do it… there are no rules. If he is interested he will respond. If he’s not he won’t so don’t bother following up your message if there is no response. Move on (stay classy). If you want someone to be straight up with you then you need to be the same. Give out what you want back. If you feel like you need to play a game to keep someone in your life they are not worth having there.
  9. Stay open minded – Across all areas of your life, be open to trying new things. If you are in a relationship this includes in the bedroom, get creative, keep things interesting for both of you, no one wants to be bored. You want to rock you man’s world like no 20yr old would ever know how to. Be confident and get what you want too.
  10. Know what you want – in life, for dinner, how you decorate your home. Know what you want and learn how to express it in a confident non-confrontational way. No one is a mind reader, so you need to speak up. Say with confidence, be decisive. Let someone know if they do something that pisses you off OR makes you happy.

How many of these would you say you are comfortable with? More that you thought? None of them are that challenging.

We are strong independent ladies with our shit together.

Good news ladies, your sexy and you know it…. And if you are not quite there yet you have a short list to work on.

Go be sexy

Jen x

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Time to grow a set

Time to grow a set…

Right… over the last couple of weeks I have addressed the issue of change with you… How are you getting on with that?

Have you started to take action and make small changes? Have you put your phone down more to take notice of the world around you?

Is there something pretty big that you want to change but you don’t even know where to start?

Sometimes when a change is big you just ignore it instead of stepping forward and taking that first step. It can be scary. I know.

Some of the steps I have taken recently have been terrifying and there is still one that I have not had the guts to do anything about…

I have started taking small steps in developing my thinking, reading more, talking to my mentor and close friends.

It is all a work in progress, and as much as I am happy being single I don’t want to be on my own forever.

What I want you to do is think about something you have been putting off, that you are afraid to start or something or someone that you know you need to let go of…

Then we (yes I am taking part too) are going to write down 5 things you can do that will take you closer to achieving that change.

TODAY (not tomorrow, today), choose one of those things and take action on it.

Pick something that will challenge you, not the easiest one.

We have to do this together or we will be stuck where we are forever just older.

Take action today on that change.

I want to know what it is and what you are going to do to make that change so either email me, Tweet me @Freedom_Trainin or Facebook me facebook.com/FreedomInTraining

I look forward to hearing about your progress

Jen x

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I was blown away

I was blown away

Royal Mail does not have the best reputation for customer service. I used to be in awe of how they could find so many disinterested and rude staff to man their post offices and collection depots.

BUT the collection depot on Hawthorn St and my postman has turned that on its head in less than 2 hours. I was down picking up my tickets for the Commonwealth Games (Athletics & Netball – cannot wait for this to start in Glasgow).

Went in with my card and ID, the lady cheerily told me it was tickets I was picking up, we then had a conversation about Wimbledon, the World Cup and the Commonwealth Games.

I was only back at my house 30mins when the doorbell rang and it was the posty with my protein delivery.

He saw me down at the depot and knew he had a parcel for me in his van so thought he would drop it round to me now instead of 12pm when he knew I would be out and save me another trip down to the depot the next day.

I was blown away by his conscientiousness.

I even went on to the Royal Mail website to write to them to let them know how nice it is to see people not just doing their job but actually doing it with purpose and going that extra mile.

Funny thing, on the site the only way I could get the message through was to put it in as a complaint (says a lot about what they expect).

I did get a really nice email back saying that they had passed it on to the depot manager and at their next meeting they were going to brief the team about my email and thank the staff there.

The next time I was in collecting a parcel they thanked me for my email and they had each been given a £10 gift card.

It’s sad that it’s a rare thing to see people actually enjoying their job. I read a lot of books about personal development and finding your purpose, and I believe we all have a purpose and what is one person’s ideal job is another’s idea of hell.

That is why I am a big believer in doing what you love.

Find your passion and live it.

It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you get something from it that makes you feel happy and purposeful.

If you hate your job, I have to ask the question, why the hell are you doing it?

Do you not deserve to do something you like (at least)?

I am not saying quit your job tomorrow, but take a step back and look at what you do like and what you would change in a heartbeat.

I’ll leave that thought with you, I would love to hear if you love what you do and how you got there or hate what you do and what you would lie to do instead…

Jen x

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My competitiveness cost me

I haven’t been sleeping the best recently and had head people talking about apps that you can get for your phone to track your sleep.

I have a windows phone that only has apps to track if you talk in your sleep so I got myself a FitBit.

This funky wee gadget not only tracks your sleep but also your activity levels through the day, how many steps you take, how far you have travelled, how and when you are most active.

I am a GEEK so I love all these numbers. I am also quite competitive. You can add friends and see how many steps they are taking.

I have a couple of other instructors on my friends list and we have a healthy wee competition going trying to out step each other…

I take it a bit far at times and went to Tesco at 10pm one night not only to get coconut oil but to increase my steps because I had dropped to 3rd place (I really did that Maria lol).

I got my steps up another 2000 steps (walked up and down every aisle in the place) which cost me £35…

Put me back to 2nd place, Tommy is way ahead of the game with 133, 572 steps for the week so I have a bit more moving to catch up with him.

Having this we leader board is so motivating and fun. It is something that you could do with your family, friends or work colleagues.

The government’s guidelines say we should be taking 10,000 steps a day.

You would be surprised how few you do on a regular day if you have a desk job but also how easy it is to get the steps up when you can monitor it.

You can get the FitBit One which you just keep in your pocket or if you are like me and know that will end up in the washing machine after day 1, the FitBit Flex which has a funky wristband , all you need to do is charge it up roughly every 5 days.

Get yourself moving more, feeling better and staying motivated with a bit of healthy competition. If you click on the product name it will take you through to amazon to buy yours.

Even taking 20-30mins out your day to walk in the fresh air, clear your head, have time to think, get your steps up and soak up some vitamin D from the sunshine (you will still get some through the clouds too), you will be amazed how much more productive you are just taking that time to yourself.

Everyone’s journey starts with steps. Just make yours 10,000+ in a day.

Jen x

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Stuck in a rut

Your work week looks something like: eat, work, sleep, repeat and your weekend might go along the lines of eat, drink, eat, sleep, hangover, repeat till you have to get up for work on Monday…

Week in, week out, it is pretty much all the same.

Feel like you’re stuck in a rut?

Feel like this is all life has to offer?

You have got to the point that you don’t even know how it got to the weekend already, the week just auto piloted through.

Yip, I have weeks like that too.

When someone asks you what you have been up to and you don’t actually know because every day blends in to one.

It has just been all work and little play.

It is human nature to get in to a routine and make things a habit.

Thing is when we fall in to that routine where everything happens without much thought we lose sight of what we want, what makes us happy, what improves us.

If you don’t change, you don’t change.

You don’t improve.

You don’t get happier.

We don’t want complacency, we want contentment.

How is your routine affecting the rest of your life?

Are you hitting those fitness or weight goals?

Do you love the life you are living?

Do you wake up every morning looking forward to the day ahead?

Is there any aspect of your life that you want to be better?

What do you think would happen if you broke the routine?

What difference could it make to pay more attention to what was going on around you, even for one day – just to see what would be different?

You might see things differently, meet more people, have more fun…

So, if you are feeling a bit like a robot working through each day, what if I set you a challenge?

For 1 day I want you to do some things differently.

Make eye contact with more people, acknowledge people – you will be surprised the positive response you get when people smile and say hello back.

Keep your phone in your bag and look at what is going on around you.

Try it.

1 day.

Let me know how you get on.

Small changes in your approach can make big changes in your experience.

Once you have tried this for a week I will up the challenge.

I look forward to hearing how you get on.

Jen x
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It’s time to stop kidding yourself and do epic sh!t.

I have achieved a lot so far in my life & as I was turning 35 I was thinking there is nowhere else I can go, nothing else left for me to achieve.

I have done more than most people do in a lifetime and I should be happy enough with that, what else can I do that will match or be better than where I have been…

This is BULLSHIT.

There is so much more that can be achieved that is bigger and better.

That scares the bejeezus out of me and it should do to you too.

The only thing that stops YOU is YOU and YOUR fear (me and mine too).  Time to take a deep breath, and take the leap.

How many times has fear got the better of you?

Have you sat back and thought ‘well this is as good as life is going to get’?

Or even ‘this will need to do’?

It is NEVER too late to start something new (not until you take that last breath).

Find a new hobby.

Make new friends.

Visit a country you have never been to before.

Get a new job.

Start a business.

Write a blog.

Read more.

Listen to more music.

Go to concerts or music festivals.

Learn a language.

Go on a course.

The list of opportunity is endless.

DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO.

We all have the potential for GREATNESS…

the thing that holds us back from that is fear…

look at all the great things YOU have done so far…

how many times were you afraid but you did them anyway?

If its not scary its not worth doing.

NO REGRETS. ‪#‎wisewords

Jen x

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You are never too old to make new friends

You are never too old to make new friends…

I was having a conversation with a client the other day and they mentioned that they didn’t really have any mates that they could hang out with. Turns out this is a pretty common thing…

I quite like spending time on my own, but I do love to have friends around for tea or go out for food (especially going out for food).

Susan (one of my longest standing friends) says that I am the common denominator of our group.

Just about everyone in our group knows each other through me.

I didn’t notice the link at first but I am not going to deny, it’s a nice thing to be.

It’s great to see people form a bond of friendship and I have been part of that introduction.

Growing up I was taught to be nice to people, listen to their stories (I am a much better listener than talker).

I always made friends as a kid on holiday, I would go off to the swimming pool or kids club and return with a wee group of friends.

I am not even one of the cool kids, I never have been.  I wore Dunlop’s when they weren’t cool and a school blazer when no one else did…

I think as adults it is something that we find difficult to do, make new friends.

We become very self conscious and possibly self aware of everything.

We think and edit too much of what we say in fear of sounding stupid or too eager.

Have a think about how many people in your life that you hang out with.

If there is not that many don’t worry about it. Look at where you can start to meet new people to start to build your social circle (only if you want, if you are happy on your todd then ignore this).

I am not going to lie, I struggled to think of places where you can meet new people but a few places to start where you might be able to catch someone not glued to their mobile phone: Work, the gym, night school, leisure classes.

One thing I love about my ‘job’ is how the group has expanded and real friendships have developed it’s an ever increasing group of friends who don’t just come to classes together, but socialise together as well.

We’re not always in one big group because we all have outside interests that are different and there is a big mix of personalities there too.

I set YOU this challenge if you are feeling a bit short on the friends front or that your social life is a bit flat, or even if you want to ditch some and replace them (sometimes we outgrow friendships)

One small change every week:

Start by speaking to everyone you come in to contact with, just starting to say hi to people in passing – you will be surprised how many people actually respond.

Get used to having conversations.

Some will end at the hi, but others will be a little bit more.

From there your next step is to build on that conversation, people will start to recognise you as ‘that friendly person’.  In a few weeks you might have even found someone you like chatting to on a regular basis.

Next step is socialise with them, whether it is a coffee at lunch, invite them along to a fitness class, it doesn’t need to be anything major, just make the step.

You can never have too many friends as an adult. In the words of Enrique Iglesias ‘ No-body wants to be lonely’ and in the words of The Beatles ‘You’ll get by with a little help from your friends’.

I would love to hear how you get on, tweet me @jenwilson2602

Jen x

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Its all about you

What is the first thing you do when you get up?

Check emails / social media?

Make breakfast for someone else?

Start work?

Get other people up and ready?

Rush about?

Running this, serving everyone else whether it’s your family, your customers or boss/colleagues, YOU need to be the first person you look after.

Start your day with power.

Serve yourself first.

Whatever that is to make sure that you are the priority in your own life.

Workout, meditate, take time for yourself before you serve anyone else.

Think about the safety instructions when you are on a flight, make sure your own mask is fitted before helping anyone else.

Burning yourself out for everyone else is not productive.

It’s not productive for you, your family, your work, your friends or your future.

It is time to make you a priority.

You might need to get up a bit earlier in the morning to get  it done.

You can do a 10 minute meditation.

You can do 10-20 minutes of Pilates or yoga.

You can go out for a walk or run to give you some time, clear your head and get some exercise in.

Taking this time for yourself gives you a better start to the day, it gives you power, it gives you more headspace and energy to deal with the day ahead.

Your challenge this week.

Take time for yourself, get up a bit earlier and do something JUST FOR YOU.

Let me know how it goes.

I am working down in Birmingham this week at Leisure Industry Week.

I will be getting up earlier to take my time for myself.

It’s going to be a busy few days working with Team ICG which I am really looking forward to.

This week, make it about you.

Jen x

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