You are perfect.
We all have those things that we see in ourselves that we hate (I will fill you in on some of mine in a minute), but if someone else was to look at you it is probably not something they notice.
It’s time to embrace your imperfections and make them your own.
How free would you feel if you weren’t judging yourself and thinking negatively about you?
Now I am not saying ditch healthy eating and exercise plans and embrace what you are not happy about. But forgive yourself when you make mistakes, its ok to be perfectly imperfect.
Mistakes, faults, imperfections are what makes us strong and will continue to make us even stronger.
Why is it that we feel we need to put up a front, wear a mask, hide our imperfections?
We pretend to be someone we are not. We hide who we really are and put on a show of perfection, mistake free and invincible.
This show of perfection is put on for everyone, friends, family, workmates, people in the street, ourselves.
Think is, that’s not real, we are being fake to everyone including ourselves. We are letting ourselves down by not being true to what is really going on inside.
‘True beauty comes from being honest and authentic’ – Heidi Powell.
Don’t get me wrong it’s not easy to do. I have my professional head on most of the time. It’s safe there, I am genuinely happy when I am doing my job but I sometimes forget to switch that version of me off.
It’s scary to think you are going to show a vulnerable side (you don’t need to reveal everything to everyone) but be honest with yourself first.
It is total freedom when you do. I am lucky to have a couple of friends who know me well enough that they see straight through my wall and I don’t pretend with at all. There is no need, there is 100% trust there.
So to share with you some of my imperfections:
- I am a perfectionist (which I am working on, for those of you who have been following me for a while my mentor Brian is helping with this).
- When I smile my eyes disappear in to wee slits.
- When I get professional photo’s taken I go all Chandler, Juliebee spends more time telling me to lose the fear face than she does telling me to smile.
- I have food issues.
- So many times I want to cheat at my workouts cause it hurts.
- I am a control freak (which is something else I am working on too lol).
- I am afraid of being single for the rest of my life but afraid to do anything about it in case I have to go through the pain like the last time.
- I am scared of failing (even though I have failed at many things and survived).
- Even when I straighten my hair I wake up looking like I have been dragged through a bush.
- I have fallen down the stairs twice this year and my elbow is still bruised and I didn’t go to the hospital to get it checked out (its still sore 2 months after my last fall).
So how do we get past this?
We need to stop being so serious, learn to laugh at ourselves and not be embarrassed or scared.
Trust in yourself, love your imperfections, understand the lessons from your mistakes and how they have made you stronger.
Don’t worry what other people think, as I told one of my clients recently fuck them!
The people who matter in your life will not be bothered about your imperfections, they will love you more for them. If they are bothered then they should have no space in your life, don’t waste time with them.
So what to do with this email.
Make a list of your imperfections, admit them to yourself, understand them then start to show them.
You don’t need to show all to everyone. That would be too much for anyone. But start to let the walls down. Choose wisely who you let it, you still need to protect yourself from outsiders.
I would love to hear what your imperfections are.