Dance in the Rain

Dance in the Rain

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain.

Bad stuff happens and we need to deal with it to make us stronger. Everything has a lesson, hiding just means we take longer to learn the lesson.Step up, deal with whatever life throws at you knowing that everything is going to be ok

Follow your heart

Follow your heart

Follow your heart, it will always know where to lead you.Trust in your heart.

It can be so difficult when your head is loud and trying to rule, take time to learn how to quiet the head so you can notice you heart.

Trust in it, trust in yourself

Chase the dream

Chase the dream

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, live the life you’ve imagined.

There is nothing better than waking up looking forward to the day ahead.

Do you have that? Or do you wake up thinking oh no, here we go again, cant wait for the weekend?

We all have a purpose in this world, living your dream is that purpose…

It might be scary to give up security, but there is nothing scary about living the dream (well there is, but its all good scary).

Live the dream.

Be confident.

Be happy.

Make mistakes

The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.

Some areas of life you live fearlessly.

Others you protect yourself excessively.

Sometimes you need to take the risk of pain to get happiness. Remember…

It always plays worse in your head than it is in reality…

Happy people are beautiful

I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Period. Happy people are beautiful.They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness – Drew Barrymore.

Do more of what makes you happy.

Fill your world of happiness and the world around you will reflect the same. Make your world more beautiful and that in turn will make you happier.

Ditch the things and people that drain your joy.

Its like a magnetic force

you are perfectly imperfect

You are perfect.

Everyone is.

Perfectly imperfect.

We all have those things that we see in ourselves that we hate (I will fill you in on some of mine in a minute), but if someone else was to look at you it is probably not something they notice.

It’s time to embrace your imperfections and make them your own.

How free would you feel if you weren’t judging yourself and thinking negatively about you?

Now I am not saying ditch healthy eating and exercise plans and embrace what you are not happy about. But forgive yourself when you make mistakes, its ok to be perfectly imperfect.

Mistakes, faults, imperfections are what makes us strong and will continue to make us even stronger.

Why is it that we feel we need to put up a front, wear a mask, hide our imperfections?

We pretend to be someone we are not.  We hide who we really are and put on a show of perfection, mistake free and invincible.

This show of perfection is put on for everyone, friends, family, workmates, people in the street, ourselves.

Think is, that’s not real, we are being fake to everyone including ourselves. We are letting ourselves down by not being true to what is really going on inside.

‘True beauty comes from being honest and authentic’ – Heidi Powell.

Don’t get me wrong it’s not easy to do. I have my professional head on most of the time. It’s safe there, I am genuinely happy when I am doing my job but I sometimes forget to switch that version of me off.

It’s scary to think you are going to show a vulnerable side (you don’t need to reveal everything to everyone) but be honest with yourself first.

It is total freedom when you do. I am lucky to have a couple of friends who know me well enough that they see straight through my wall and I don’t pretend with at all. There is no need, there is 100% trust there.

So to share with you some of my imperfections:

  1. I am a perfectionist (which I am working on, for those of you who have been following me for a while my mentor Brian is helping with this).
  2. When I smile my eyes disappear in to wee slits.
  3. When I get professional photo’s taken I go all Chandler, Juliebee spends more time telling me to lose the fear face than she does telling me to smile.
  4. I have food issues.
  5. So many times I want to cheat at my workouts cause it hurts.
  6. I am a control freak (which is something else I am working on too lol).
  7. I am afraid of being single for the rest of my life but afraid to do anything about it in case I have to go through the pain like the last time.
  8. I am scared of failing (even though I have failed at many things and survived).
  9. Even when I straighten my hair I wake up looking like I have been dragged through a bush.
  10. I have fallen down the stairs twice this year and my elbow is still bruised and I didn’t go to the hospital to get it checked out (its still sore 2 months after my last fall).

So how do we get past this?

We need to stop being so serious, learn to laugh at ourselves and not be embarrassed or scared.

Trust in yourself, love your imperfections, understand the lessons from your mistakes and how they have made you stronger.

Don’t worry what other people think, as I told one of my clients recently fuck them!

The people who matter in your life will not be bothered about your imperfections, they will love you more for them. If they are bothered then they should have no space in your life, don’t waste time with them.

So what to do with this email.

Make a list of your imperfections, admit them to yourself, understand them then start to show them.

You don’t need to show all to everyone. That would be too much for anyone. But start to let the walls down. Choose wisely who you let it, you still need to protect yourself from outsiders.

I would love to hear what your imperfections are.

Jen x

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What are you waiting for?

How wonderful is it that nobody need wait a single moment to improve the world – Anne Frank

Start with you and your world. What can you do to make your life better?

What opportunities can you take up or create for yourself?

Keep opening the doors and see what’s behind them.

Take nothing good for granted and have hope when things are not going as you planned.

Focus on your world first and the rest will follow 

Do what you love

Do what you love. Love what you do and you’ll not work another day.

If you don’t love what you do why do you do it?

Sometimes there are tasks that need to be done that we don’t love.

But think about the big things.

Your job/work. Do you love it?

What stops you from doing what you love?

Change can be scary but think what’s on the other side.

Life is too short to waste

Its your story

Who would you be without your story? We all have a story, a past, a trail of good times and bad.

It makes us who we are.

Stronger, more competent, ready to deal with the next thing.

We take lessons in life. Nothing is thrown at us that we cant handle.

Take what you learn from the lesson forward with you.

Be that stronger version of you. Acknowledge the pain and leave it behind.

Take the good times, happy memories forward.

The past is past, just a memory. Y

ou are in full control of how that memory makes you feel…

‘There is always darkness before the dawn…..shake it off’ ~ Florence and the Machine

Its your story. Don’t judge yourself, don’t let others judge you. Its made you who you are

Freedom

There is a huge amount of freedom that comes when you take nothing personally.

When something happens, don’t think that its about you.

10 times out of 10 it is about them and the thoughts that run in their head.

If someone doesn’t want you in their life, that’s fine, don’t take it personally, the reason is their thoughts.

If something happens, its because its meant to, don’t take it personally.

Don’t overthink why things happen, just accept that they do. You will feel so much freedom